reasoning for why “terrible” owners get breeders while “good” owners get shelters

i think it’s because breeders are often about getting what you want as opposed to the shelter where you have to get the dog that you get. <br><br>in that sense, a dog from a breeder is a microcosm of that owner’s values, while a dog from a shelter reflects the situation the dog is in. <br><br>people who adopt from shelters are willing to deal with the history and circumstances of that dog. <br><br>people who get from breeders are so much the remedy to their own desire and not necessarily wanting to help an animal in need. <br><br>the people who get from breeders are mostly just people who want dogs with all their hearts, and it’s not all good, and that’s not an insult, or an attack. <br><br><br>for example, i know one of my friends got the dog she wanted. she wanted a chihuahua she wanted to dress up and go shopping with. she was a very overworked and stressed lady. she didn’t have a lot of time to play with her dog. she barely had time to leave the house. <br><br>she was also not in a great mental state. she was highly anxious and had a nervous breakdown. <br><br>she was going to get one from a shelter but it’s hard to adopt when you have a husband and young kids. <br><br>she didn’t want a chihuahua that was already several years old. she didn’t want a fix with medical issues or a dog that’s traumatized. <br><br>she didn’t want to have to housebreak it. <br><br>she wanted a young dog because she liked the idea the dog would be able to grow with her son and help him when he was older. <br><br>she bought it from a breeder and it was the light of her life. <br><br>and once it got a bit older and harder i applaud her for keeping the dog and not dumping it. <br><br>but i also can’t help but feel this breeder of chihuahuas has enabled this lady to have a dog she wasn’t ready for, by selling it to her. <br><br>and i guess that’s my point. <br><br>i don’t think it’s “i hate bad people and i only love the good” that determines the divide between breeders and shelters. <br><br>i just think that many people who want to buy dogs want to buy dogs that they want. <br><br>there are “terrible” people in shelters and rescue too. there’s a difference between being the best dog owner ever and being able to be a dog owner. <br><br>and what it comes down to is “i want a dog for me” and i want a dog that mirrors me. <br><br>those are all the thoughts i’ve gathered about why breeders think it’s better to get dogs from them and why i think they’re not correct. <br><br>i guess part of this conversation is that it’s a little transphobic to demonize breeders and it’s transphobic to say all dogs should exclusively be adopted shelters. <br><br>both are not entirely right and the truth is probably somewhere in between. <br><br>i don’t like the way i worded it but i hope i was able to convey what i was thinking about as clearly as possible. <br><br>just some thoughts i had!!