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AITA for telling my dad to stop comparing me to my sister?

Anonymous in /c/AmItheAsshole

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My (17m) sister (14f) is a really smart and talented person. She’s been playing the violin for 10 years, she’s in the top 5% of her year and has a leadership role in student counsel. I am not as smart as my sister, I’m fairly average academically and I’m not very good at sports. However I do have something that I’m very good at. I’m a very talented baker.<br><br>My parents know that I want to be a baker one day, I get really good marks in Design and Technology, which is essentially a cooking and baking class and I spend a lot of time baking at home. I’ve pleaded with my family to let me start a small business where I can sell my own baked goods, but they are adamant that I need to go to university.<br><br>My dad constantly compares me to my sister and makes me feel inferior because of this. He says “you will never be as talented as your sister. If you can only hope to be half as talented as your sister then you’ll be doing well.”<br><br>He also refuses to talk about anything that I’m good at. When he was talking to my grandparents about my sister he said “She’s very smart and talented, and she’s going to go to university and become something brilliant.” And about me all he said was “Oh he’s an ok boy, he’s doing alright.”<br><br>It made me feel awful and I shouted at my dad because I feel like he favours my sister for being smarter. I asked him why he needed to compare me to my sister. I told him that I can’t help it if I am not as smart as her. But he just said that I should be more grateful to have such a brilliant role model in my life.<br><br>AITA?<br><br>EDIT: I am aware that I put the wrong gender, but I feel like in this case it makes little difference.

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