To anyone whining about not being a feminist: you just got DESERVINGLY DRAGGED.

It can be scary to admit the truth on this sub, but I'll admit it. I'm not a feminist.<br><br>Edit so people can stop accusing me of trolling: I am an actual woman.<br><br>While I think it's unrealistic to expect true "equality" between the sexes, I'm not against equal opportunity. I don't have a problem with men, I'm not angry, I don't like being called a female supremacist and I don't think I should automatically get anything I want because I don't have a Y-chromosome.<br><br>I was under the impression that feminism was about political, social, and economic equality for women. I was wrong.<br><br>With that in mind, I still think it's wrong to dismiss feminism as a whole without looking at the bigger picture. I've seen many people on this sub criticize feminism for not being what it used to be, and that's a fair point, but there's also a lot of bullshitty "feminist" discourse happening on other parts of the internet.<br><br>Personally, I think social media has just amplified everything. I really don't think that the "viciously anti male" feminist discourse that's so commonly referred to was just invisible or non-existent before the advent of social media. It's just as possible that those people were always around, we just didn't hear about it as much.<br><br>I've always been a bit ambivalent towards the term feminist, because I believe that one should first actually know what a word means before claiming to be something. Unfortunately, most people don't bother to do that, and then whine about people "misrepresenting" their movement when people start criticizing it. I've always been pretty critical of 3rd wave intersectional feminism myself, but to dismiss the entire movement is just being obstinate and ignorant. We could all learn a thing or two from reading a goddamn book once in a while.<br><br>If you truly believe that you can just dismiss "the feminist movement" because "not all feminists" are like that, then that's just the pot calling the kettle black. You're doing the exact same thing you're criticizing them for. You're making a post about how much you hate feminism, but you're not bothering to specify which type of feminism you're criticizing, and that's just as bad as saying "all men"<br><br>I understand that it's very frustrating for many people, especially victims of sexual assault and rape, to see the word "feminism" associated with their traumatizing and painful experiences, but it's not as simple as just blaming a movement, because no movement is entirely homogenous.<br><br>I've read many posts on this sub criticizing "the feminist movement" for being too radical or hateful, but none of those posts have specified which type of feminism they're criticizing. It's the same thing as saying that all feminists hate men, which is obviously not true. Did you know that there is actually a type of feminism called "individualist feminism" which is centered around individualism? Do you also know that conservative and libertarian feminism both exist?<br><br>There are many, many types of feminism. I'm not a feminist, but I can still acknowledge that the core *definition* of feminism is not inherently "anti-male." A lot of people here seem to think it is, and that they're justified in blaming an entire movement for the naivety of a few.<br><br>If you don't want to call yourself a feminist, then that's fine, but don't be an idiot and dismiss an entire movement because of a few shitty actions from a vocal minority. That's the whole "not all men" debate. You can't carve out your own little slice of the pie and say you're justified in being anti-feminist because you had a bad experience with a feminist, and then turn around and criticize people for saying "not all men."<br><br>That's also being a shitty human being, and that's not what this sub is supposed to be about. Most people here have experienced traumatic shit at the hands of men, and that's understandable, but it's still not ok to just dismiss the entire gender or an entire movement because of that.<br><br>Just because you're critical of privilege or systemic oppression doesn't mean you have a right to act like an entitled asshole. I don't like the term "feminist" either, but I still recognize that it's an important movement that needs to happen.<br><br>Yes, I think some feminist discourse is over the top and ridiculous, and no, I don't think that all men are inherently bad, but I'm not just going to blindly hate all feminists because they're more vocal or visible than other types of people. That's not a fair or justified reason to hate an entire group of people, and deep down I think most people know that.<br><br>And, to clarify for people that apparently can't read, I'm not saying that anti-feminism is the same thing as misogyny. I'm saying that blaming an entire movement for the actions of a few is the same thing as blaming an entire gender for the actions of a few.<br><br>That being said, I don't think that the people who whine about feminism are necessarily misogynistic. I just think that some of them are uninformed. And some are just assholes that like to blame women for their own personal problems that have nothing to do with feminism.<br><br>A lot of people on this sub have been victimized and hurt in their past, and I'm truly sorry for that, but that's not an excuse to blindly hate or dismiss an entire movement or gender. That's not fair to anyone, and it just makes you look fucking stupid.<br><br>And to the people who don't like my post, that's fine. I couldn't care less. You can keep living in your little bubble of extreme bitterness and ignorance, and I'll just be over here living my life and occasionally making a post like this to point out how fucking stupid all of you are being.<br><br>Edit because I got a gold and it felt nicefeed my thrist for validation and dopamine.<br><br>to /u/throwawayishere for gold