My [23M] girlfriend [24F] wants me to tell her every time I am sexually aroused. I can't do this anymore. Update

First off I'd like to thank everyone who replied to my original post. The advice was pretty much all on one side with the occasional comment saying I should keep trying to make it work. It's just not possible. I think one redditor put it best- this is not something that can be fixed with a bit of communication. It's not something that can be fixed at all.<br><br>I've thought a lot about the situation and in the end I've decided it's best if we go our own ways. For a long time I was just trying to find some way to make the relationship work, I could find some compromise with her on anything else, but at the end of the day, sex is a major part of a relationship, and I can't make myself do this. I can't deal with the stress of this, I'm just too anxious to do anything. I can't see her being okay with not doing this ever, and I don't want to put myself through the anxiety of forcing myself to do this.<br><br>I sat down with my girlfriend, and we talked about it. I told her I can't do this anymore. At first she was angry, but she calmed down and said she'd be okay if I stopped. I was a bit surprised, I thought she'd keep pushing me to do this. However she said she was having second thoughts too. The main reason I broke up with her was that I was too nervous/awkward to actually have sex with her. And she never pushed me to do it, she was very considerate of how I felt. But I think she's changed her mind when she saw that I'm still not willing to have sex with her.<br><br>I don't know what it is specifically that changed her perception of this. I think it may have been when I stopped trying to force myself to do it. I was a wreck, and I think me not being able to do something that I desperately wanted to do was an eye opener for her. We talked and she said she never was fully on board with this. She never said anything because she thought I liked doing it, but she now realizes that she doesn't enjoy it as much as she thought she would, especially since I was struggling to do it. It's been a not so pleasant experience for both of us.<br><br>I'm moving out of our apartment. It's been difficult for both of us. We've been together for 8 years and been living together for 5. I took most the stuff that I need and I've moved back in with my parents for now. I'm looking for a new place to live. She's still staying in her parents house.<br><br>I've been pretty devastated these past few days, I don't really know how to function without her. But I'm slowly adjusting to this. It's been difficult for both of us, and I'm not really sure how to feel. I'm not happy about this, but I'm also not as upset as I thought I'd be. I'm mostly feeling relief that I don't have to do this anymore.<br><br>Our relationship has also been pretty strained emotionally. I can't live with her anymore. I can't even look at her. As I said, I never had sex with her, but all this has made me associate sex with stress and anxiety. I can't be around her, because it makes me feel so terrible. We've been distant from each other for months before this, and I don't think it would be fair to either of us to keep a relationship going where the respect and love that we used to have is gone.<br><br>We're currently in the process of divorcing. I'm getting a lawyer and I think we're going to be dividing assets. I don't think either of us is going to contest the divorce, but we are going to contest assets. She wants as much as she can get. We'll see how it goes. I'm mostly concerned with being able to function emotionally. She says she's okay with the break up, but I think she's just trying to make our relationship as amicable as possible so she can get more money out of it.<br><br>This whole process has been painful and time consuming. Emotionally it has been devastating. I've thought about just giving in and doing what she wants, but I think it's better for both of us if we go our separate ways. <br><br>tl;dr: I broke up with my wife, and we're in the process of divorcing. This has been a long and painful process, but it's probably better for both of us in the long run.