Update: My boyfriend (25M) has a best friend (25M) and I (24F) don't get along. BF said he can't see a future without either of us.

Some of y'all are going to hate this update, some of you are going to love it. Either way, here it is. <br><br>First of all my last post was just about sharing a funny experience in our lives. We found it REALLY funny, and I never meant for it to sound like it was the thing that fixed everything between B and L. It was about two months after I shared the post that B and L's relationship actually turned a corner for the better. Also, the reason it took me so long to write this update is because I was AWFUL with keeping up with PMs. <br><br>I once again got my bf to read through the comments and pick out the things he thought would be helpful. <br><br>The thing he found most helpful was a comment about a Chambers user who had a best friend that "was like a boyfriend but without the romance". It made BF realize that the way he was thinking about the importance of L in his life really was like the importance of a spouse. <br><br>BF then sat down with L and had basically the same conversation with him that he had with me about needing to see both of us in his future. <br><br>L was very understanding and when I came back to visit, I found that my visit was like every visit I had before my apartment was my permanent address. L and B were their old selves with each other, but L saw me as a part of B's life. <br><br>After B and I got engaged, L was so excited. He brags about me to his friends and for the first time I don't feel like I'm intruding when I'm spending time with both of them. <br><br>The conclusion we've all come to is that L felt like his relationship with B was threatened when I was around. He knew that B and I were serious in our relationship, and when I started spending more time with B than L was, L felt like he was being replaced. <br><br>L's parents weren't strict about screen time, video games, web surfing, etc. But they were strict about who L could hang out with in person. It was a three hour drive to our town, and L's parents did not want to make that drive. <br><br>So L spent a lot of time alone, and when he met B things got better, but he felt like with B, he'd never feel that way again. L was very sensitive to the change in B's focus. <br><br>The main difference between now and then is that L knows that B and I are engaged. Even when I spend more time with B than L spends with him, L knows that he's important to B and it's just the nature of L and B's relationship that B and I need to be together more. <br><br>Anyway, we're all happy now! <br><br>Edit: Holy shit I totally forgot to mention that L was my best man at our wedding. He was a catch-22 Best Man, in that he was B's best friend, and I didn't have a best man. Still, L gifted us a honeymoon suite in Maui because he saved all the money he made in high school and college with the goal of paying for B's Honeymoon suite. He couldn't think of a better time than ours, because he knew how long B and I had been together and how long we had been trying to get married. <br><br>So yea, that's where we're at. <br><br>Edit2: I'm not sure if I'll be able to update any sooner than this, but I'm pregnant. We're officially a family of three right now (And turnaround, BF, and dog). We'll be moving to a new house after the baby is born, and L will be moving in with us for the foreseeable future. L's job a transferable, and he's making plans for moving. <br><br>I won't post an update until we've found a good rhythm, but it's taken me a few months to get this together. <br><br>TL;DR: We're all friends now!