AITA for not telling my ex-husband why our divorce was granted?

I recently finalized my divorce after a 2 year separation. It was amicable and we both agreed to it and both wanted it. We have children together and I’m still trying to be a co-parent to them.<br><br>Our divorce was granted because of my career. I got a huge opportunity to work for my dream company and I was required to relocate. My ex-husband got a good job offer in our hometown and stayed there with our children. <br><br>My ex-husband was not happy about this, naturally and our relationship became extremely sour. Even though we were separated we still lived together because we couldn’t afford to live in separate houses. And he would often make comments about me leaving when he got his job. Saying I’m a terrible mother for abandoning my family, I’m not thinking about the kids, etc. He would guilt trip me into staying. This caused a huge rift between us. I stopped talking to him and he would complain about me being cold.<br><br>Because of all this, the judge decided to grant the divorce. My ex-husband kept asking me if I cheated on him while we were married. If I found someone else and that’s why I’m leaving. I keep telling him no. I just got an amazing opportunity and I’m not going to pass it up. Even if it means leaving my family behind.<br><br>The reason I got the divorce was because I realized I didn’t love him. While I was still in town, I still felt that I had a responsibility to care for him. But when I left, I felt relieved. I didn’t have to take care of him anymore. I could do what I wanted. I could focus on myself and I could focus on providing for my children.<br><br>I realized that I stopped loving him a long time ago. I stayed because of our kids. And because he needed me. I took care of everything. Household chores, cooking, childcare, paying bills and paying for groceries. I was the glue that held the family together. But when I left, he couldn’t function without me. So the judge decided to grant the divorce.<br><br>He’s been calling me and asking why the judge granted the divorce. I don’t want to tell him it’s because he can’t function as an adult without me. I don’t want to tell him that I stopped loving him. And honestly, I just don’t want to talk to him. AITA?