My (31F) husband (29M) is too "naive"

Hello. I want to start by apologizing if im overstepping any boundaries here. I am truly sorry if I did so. I am from different country and I am concerned this is cultural. I am by no means complaining about my husband but here is the problem.<br><br>We are married for 4 years now. We were engaged for 3 years before our marriage. We were virgins when we met and we both came from very "traditional" families. In mine we are expected to cook, clean, do all the chores and etc for 100%. For him its 0%. In his family its 50/50. So this was a big shock for him when he moved in with me after a year of dating. He had no idea how to do anything. He never cleaned a bathroom, ironed clothes or cooked. He didnt even know how to change a duvet cover. I was truly shocked as he went to a good university and he has a very good career. He is very kind and well mannered but he is just clueless. I am not mad at him at all. I took this as my responsibility to teach him. I know better now and I should have asked about these things before moving in together. We are very happy together and we have a child. My issue is when we visit my family. They dont understand how a grown man cant have a basic knowledge of everyday things. In my country you dont just hire someone to clean for you everyday. If you can afford, you hire for once or twice a week but that's it. I dont know if this is cultural but my family thinks that he is playing dumb and I should stop being his "mother". I am actually fine with teaching him these things because I love him and I am happy to do it. But I am having hard time to make them understand that this is how he is and he is not faking it. They think I am making this up because I am a "pampering mother wife" who coddles her husband. They dont understand why I am defending him so much. Even my mother asked me how it is possible for a grown man to not know how to iron a shirt or change a lightbulb. They think he is playing dumb to get out of doing chores but I know he is not faking it.<br><br>What is your opinion on this? Is this normal?<br><br>Edit: because so many people asked, I can't remember the exact groceries but it was something like 2 carrots, a litre of milk, a loaf of bread, a pack of butter and a few eggs.