My boyfriend told me to "shut up" twice, how should I bring this up with him?
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My boyfriend and I were having sex, generally going normally for us, and during one of his 'erotic' lines he told me he was going to "Come on my face." For those who don't know, I absolutely HATE being facialed. It wouldn't be so bad if I was just allowed to swallow the cum, but he is not okay with that, and insists on it going ON my face and not in my mouth. <br><br>So, I said "Please don't." He laughed and said "Yeah, I'm gonna come on your face." I repeated "Please don't." He again repeated "Yeah, I'm gonna come on your face." I said no again, and he said "SHUT UP!" As he came on my face, and then when I recoiled in disgust he said "SHUT UP!" Again.<br><br>I understand to him, it was just sex, or in the moment, but to me, he just disregarded my consent and disrespected me. Also, when I first started seeing him, he had asked me about my sexual boundaries and I told him I don't like facials.<br><br>He isn't home right now, but when he is later, how should I bring this up with him in the best way possible? Or should I just drop it?<br><br>TLDR: Boyfriend told me to shut up during sex, how can I bring it up with him in the best way?<br><br>EDIT: <br><br>First, Thank you all so much for the support and advice, it means a lot!<br><br>And Second, I think there is a slight misunderstanding about me allowing him to come on me the first time, after he initially asked me. I am very picky about who I am willing to do things with, and don't generally allow things that I would consider dehumanizing/disrespectful/degrading. When he first asked me about this, I fairly confidently told him "No, I don't like that. And would prefer if we didn't do it." He agreed and said it was fine, but the next time we hooked up, during a "spur of the moment" situation, he asked again and I just kind of...Agreed because I didn't want to ruin the moment and wanted to make sure I was being "Spontaneous" to a degree, just kind of stupid on my part honestly, I should have been more confident in my own boundaries. <br><br>Thank you all again, I really appreciate you all. <3<br><br>EDIT 2: <br><br>I've removed the original message I had posted about the outcome and deleted what remained of my Chambers account. I have put myself and my sister into a shelter for now.
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