There are so many reasons I don't ever want kids and Ivery single one of them is valid enough on its own to solidify my decision

I don't want kids because I don't want to be a mom. I hate the idea of being a mom, of being a parent, of raising and teaching a child.<br><br>I just... I don't understand the fixation some people have on wanting to have kids. And I don't know what it is about me that makes my family so adamant that "I'll change my mind".<br><br>No, I won't. I've been adamant I never want kids for as long as I can remember. I do not, under any circumstances, want kids.<br><br>They are exhausting. You have to constantly monitor them, keep them safe, teach them, socialize them, feed them, bathe them, etc etc etc. And even if you choose to split custody and/or have a split in parenting duties, you still have to do all this anyway because parenting is a 24/7 job. <br><br>If I ever get married, I want to travel with my spouse. I want to go on vacations and stay at nice hotels and get to relax and have a break. With kids, you can't just leave them behind. If you go on a vacation, you have to bring the kid. And kids do not make good traveling companions, especially young kids. <br><br>Older kids are just as bad, if not even worse. They have their own opinions and don't like doing things and will complain loudly and rudely. They will be upset about leaving their friends behind.<br><br>Kids cost money, a lot of money. So instead of spending money on myself or using it for my husband and I to go on a nice vacation, I would be spending it all on this tiny, needy human and giving up freedoms to make sure they have the best and that they can thrive. And kids are a financial burden for their entire childhood and beyond. A 3-4 year college degree is a bare minimum for a good paying job. Kids are a solid 20 year financial and time and emotional burden. <br><br>I'm also terrifyingly aware that I am not a good person. I am very impatient and I get angry very very easily. I would be an abusive parent and I am strong enough to admit that. I would not be able to handle the frustration of raising a child.<br><br>On the flip side, I have been suggested to adopt an older kid since I wouldn't have to deal with the emotional challenge of raising a small child. But older adopted kids (7 and up) also come with emotional baggage and many develop attachment issues. I would not be equipped to handle that.<br><br>I don't want kids because I have been a child and I know how hard it is for parents to raise a kid and how stressful it is and I do not want to go through that. I do not want to raise a kid.<br><br>And I'm also just really really selfish. I like doing what I want to do and I don't want to have to sacrifice anything for anyone, let alone a kid and a husband. I want to be able to focus on me and me only and always be able to give myself 100% of my attention. I don't want to have to split that up between husband, kids, friends, etc.<br><br>I don't want kids.<br><br>But whenever I bring this up to my family, they just say things like "You'll change your mind when you're older" or "You'll make a great mom someday" or "Don't worry, instincts will kick in".<br><br>And they're WRONG.<br><br>Because if I ever do change my mind, it will be when I am ready. But I'm strong enough to acknowledge that, as of right now, I am not capable, nor do I want to be capable, of raising a kid.<br><br>And I just wish people could accept that.<br><br>I do not want kids.<br><br>And I don't think that will ever change.<br><br>And I'm not saying that parents are bad or that anything is wrong with raising a kid. Parents are amazing and it's such a hard job and I actually want most people to have kids.<br><br>But because parenting is such a hard job, everyone should think really really really really really hard before deciding to become a parent. Because it is easily the hardest job someone will ever have, and the most important and most fulfilling. So a person should really make sure that they are ready and capable and willing to be a parent.<br><br>And I am not.<br><br>And I am strong enough to admit that.<br><br>And that decision should be the most important thing.<br><br>And yet somehow it isn't.<br><br>I don't want kids and for some reason my reasons are not enough.<br><br>But I don't want kids.<br><br>And I will probably never want kids.<br><br>And I am strong enough to admit I am not capable of raising a kid.<br><br>I do not want to be a parent.<br><br>I do not want kids.<br><br>And I don't think I ever will.<br><br>I do not want kids.<br><br>I do not want kids.<br><br>I do not want kids.<br><br>Edit: I am blown away by the amount of responses this has gotten. Thank you all so much. I feel like I've joined a wonderful support system. I felt so alone in my desire to be childfree before this. But now I know I am not alone. And if there's one thing I can say to anyone who is hesitant or unsure or bullied by others to have kids, it's that you are not alone. There is a whole Chambers full of people who do not want kids and who will support you in your decision.<br><br>Again, thank you all so much :)