AITA for refusing to let my late-husband’s family use photos of us at his funeral?

My husband passed away two weeks ago. I’m still feeling pretty numb, but his family seem to be expecting me to handle all the funeral plans. They asked me to make a photo slideshow with pictures of him for the service, which I said I’d be happy to do. I’ve made a video of pictures through our whole relationship, from the first day we met through to our honeymoon. I also asked our closest friends for some pictures.<br><br>My in-laws asked to see a preview before the service. When they saw it, they were upset that there were more pictures of me and my husband than just him on his own. They said it made it look like the funeral was for me too, not just him.<br><br>I told them that it’s a slideshow of our relationship, so of course we’re both going to be in it, and they asked if I could please start the slideshow from our wedding day onwards. This would leave out the first five years of our relationship, which made no sense to me. When I asked why, they said it’s because they didn’t know me at that point, so they don’t want to see pictures of a time they weren’t involved in our lives.<br><br>I said OK, fine, but I didn’t take out the pictures of me. They saw the final version and were upset that I hadn’t taken out more pictures of me. They said it’s inappropriate to have so many pictures of me at his funeral, and that I really didn’t want to start a fight with them. I told them that if they can’t handle seeing me in pictures of our relationship, they can put out their own photos.<br><br>They went ahead and made their own slideshow, and I made mine. They showed theirs first and then got pretty mad when I put mine on afterwards. They said it was inappropriate, but all our friends said it was perfect and that they loved seeing pictures from different points in our relationship. Some even said it was a good way for them to remember him too, since it had pictures of him with mutual friends.<br><br>My in-laws are my husband’s mother and sister. His father and brother passed away, and he was their youngest son, which I know they’re grieving over. I understand that they’re upset, but I feel like they’re trying to erase me from his life. I could understand if I’d put out pictures from my whole life or pictures from before we met, but I just don’t see what’s wrong with pictures of him and I together. They’ve both been calling me and telling me I’m being selfish and making the funeral about me instead of their lost.<br><br>AITA for telling them to leave me alone over this?