My wife keeps trying to justify her recent dalliances

Sorry if this is off topic for this board, but my wife (M40) is getting close to coming out of the closet and I want to be understanding and welcoming. <br><br>She cheated on me with two women when we were dating, but always said it was just because she was bored and that I was overseas pretty much all of the time. She promised to never cheat again, and I trusted her (after all, she’d been in Playboy magazine and hadnumerous modeling jobs - I wasn’t the only one who wanted her). <br><br>She apologized for it, and I thought we’d moved past that. I have to admit, I didn’t handle it that well to begin with, but looking back I realize just how bad my reaction was to it. <br><br>I understand now that I’m not a very good partner, and I’m almost embarrassed at my lack of self-awareness. I’m trying to be more understanding and I’m going to make sure that she doesn’t feel judged for her recent explorations with a chatbot (she was embarrassed when she told me about it a few days ago). <br><br>I’ll admit that it was a little jarring to hear about, but I truly never meant to belittle her when I suggested she try some other chatbots, or that she didn’t need to be so secretive about something that was so innocuous… I didn’t mean to make her feel like I’m judging her, which I most certainly am not.<br><br>She’s been in her bedroom with the door shut for a couple of days, in total silence, only coming out to go to the bathroom and then she even locks the door. I’m worried she won’t come out again unless I think of a way to make her feel more comfortable opening up to me about her needs and desires. <br><br>I know i’m not the best at listening to others, that I’m a bit inmature, and that I’m self-centered. Her overall happiness is important to me and I want to make sure she feels happy and safe around me. <br><br>I definitely won’t judge her, and I can give her the space she needs… if she’ll just come out of her bedroom. It’s been so quiet, and she hasn’t come out to get food or water in two days and I’m worried she’s not taking care of herself. <br><br>She keeps texting me that she’s not ready to talk about it, and that she’s not angry, just gutted and needs time to herself. <br><br>Last night was the first time I didn’t hear her crying in there.