Am I (32F) a totally illiterate dumbass if I don’t understand all the tumult about men not wanting to date “women with kids”?

Every single post about dating within this sub, seems to be so negative about dating a woman who already has kids. I don’t get it. I have three kids. I don’t have any child support or help. I’m a single working mom, but I work a pretty good job and I spoil my kids. I take care of them on my own, and I do it successfully. And I would never expect a man to buy me food, drinks, etc- ever. I make enough to spoil my children, take care of them, and still spoil myself. If a man happens to spoil me occasionally- then that’s so cool. But I don’t expect it. I think I’d be a great girlfriend.<br><br>I can’t imagine dating a woman with kids would be that bad.