I'm going to become a father

So my wife and I got pregnant with our first and we don't have much idea about what it takes to be good parents. I am genuinely scared. I just want them to have a good life. I've dated my wife for 7 years, and I know she will be a good mother, and I will try my best to be an excellent provider, but I'm scared about taking responsibility for a whole person. Treat them right and make sure they grow up into good adults. <br><br>I've been reading books, talking to friends and family who have kids. One thing I've learned is to make sure our kid(s) have good people in their lives. I have a feeling religion is important. They should have good food to eat, clothes and things they need. A nice house. Stuff they want too. But I want to make sure they are happy and I don't think the stuff is all it's cracked up to be. I want them to learn a lot. The world has changed so much so I have a feeling a good job isn't as secure as it used to be. I want them to be able to look after themselves. That's why I think religion is important. I want to make sure they have values. <br><br>I've never hit a woman but I slapped my mother once, and I hit my little brother when I was about 9, he was 6, left a mark on his face. I was in so much trouble. My dad took the belt to my behind and my mom grounded me to my room and took my video games away. I feel bad whenever I think about it. Don't want to do something like that to my kid ever. But I want to be firm too, my dad was very strict and I feel like it did me a lot of good. So it's all about finding a balance.<br><br>My wife and I moved to a big city because I found a better paying job here, and I don't know if we should move back to where we grew up. I don't want them to miss out on their family, but we are doing better with our finances now. I hear moving around a lot is bad for kids though too. So many things I need to sort out.