My mom is amazing, but very very toxic

I’m gonna write this all out so it will make more sense and is easier to understand. <br><br>My mom is an amazing person, she has always been a good mom, always been there for me, always cares about me, and always tries to make sure I have a good time. <br>She is super smart, and always tries her best. <br>She has taught me how important it is to be kind, compassionate, and understanding. <br>I would say we have a relationship like a best friend. <br>She is always understanding, and she is always accepting. <br>She is fun to be around, and never makes me feel like I’m a burden.<br><br>However, she is very toxic. <br>She is obsessed with my dad. <br>She is literally so obsessed with him, that she has stopped taking care of herself. <br>She is 100% dependent on him, and she will literally kill herself if he ever wants to break up. <br>She refuses to take care of herself. <br>She never properly eats, never properly sleeps, and never does anything just for herself. <br>She always tries to make sure my dad has the best life, and she will do anything for him. <br>It has gotten to the point that she refuses to go to therapy because she thinks it will make my dad angry. <br>She refuses to move out because she is “afraid” of living alone. <br>Meanwhile, she refuses to do anything for herself. <br>She will not take care of her hair, she will not take baths, she will not sleep in her bed, she will not get out of the house, she will not get a job, she will not go to therapy, she will not do anything unless she knows that my dad will approve.<br><br>That is why she is toxic. <br>Yes, she is an amazing person, but she is also a very toxic person. <br>I refuse to call her a good person. <br>She is not a good person. <br>She is a very toxic person, disguising herself as a good person, and people are fooled by it.