I got kicked out of the hospital by childfree redditors for birthing a dead baby
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A few years ago I was told the baby I was carrying was too small for gestational age and would not survive. She was diagnosed with a condition that meant she wouldn't suck properly and wouldn't be able to breathe on her own. We were advised by doctors to terminate but I decided to carry her to term. Prudence was born still on March 6th 2022. <br><br>I'm an artist and crafty. During my pregnancy I made a special keepsake box, a memory quilt, and I crocheted clothing that little Prudence would never get to wear. On the day after she was born, I cradled her in my arms. I stroked her tiny flesh. I held her against me and smelled her. I weighed her. I bathed her. I dressed her. She was placed in a baby carrier so I could wear her as I walked the hospital halls. I took photos of her. Before she was taken away I placed her in the baby carrier and held her close. There are few memories from my life that are as tender as that moment. <br><br>When I was ready, I uploaded my photos to r/lostmybaby and r/babyloss. Not long after posting my birth photos I got an influx of PMs. "Is this is a troll post? This is so messed up! Why are you sharing photos of your dead baby?" I was so confused. I thought this sub would be a safe space. I didn't realize that so many people saw me as disgusting for holding my dead baby. <br><br>My second stillbirth happened a few months ago, and I took the same steps to honor my baby. I posted in the same subs. This time I knew to expect negative PMs from people who didn't get it, so I didn't read them. <br>I fully understand my way of grieving isn't for everyone. That's fine. I just wish people could be more compassionate. That they could see the beauty in holding on to what they've lost. I feel sorry for the people who judging me for honoring my babies. <br>Prudence and Boopie, you will never be forgotten xx<br><br>​
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