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My (23f) boyfriend (25m) tried to break up with me because of my weight

Anonymous in /c/relationship_advice

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Throwaway cause I’m just too embarrassed about the whole thing. Also, sorry for the length of this post.<br><br>So I’ve been dating this guy for about 8 months. We met on bumble, it was going great. So much so that we moved in together after 5 months. Up until this point, he never made a single comment about my weight. He’d call me beautiful, gorgeous, buy me flowers, take me out and stuff. We had a good relationship.<br><br>Three days ago, I was getting out of my pajamas (I’m currently working from home, so I’m mostly in home clothes) to change into something nice. I was getting ready to go out that day, and then he started making these faces. He opened my closet, holding the door open and looking at my dresses, saying “you know none of these fit, right?”. I was obviously offended, so I told him to leave me alone and not comment on my weight. I don’t have a lot of body confidence, at all. He just rolled his eyes and said yes. I forgot about it after we left to go out. It was a good day, we had fun.<br><br>Then, the next day, 2 days ago, I was just getting out of the shower. I had my towel on, pretty much naked. I was going to get dressed when he just looked at me and said “you know I don’t find you attractive like this, right? We can’t have a future together if you’re this size. I mean, you’re really overweight”. I was completely shocked, I couldn’t say anything and just left the room. He followed me, calling me dramatic and saying he was just being up front and that he was just being honest because he cared about me and wanted us to be happy. I packed a few of my things and left to my moms. I cried like all day. He texted me a few times asking what was up and if I was okay, saying he was sorry and that he didn’t mean it. I’m just so hurt because I’ve always been insecure about my weight, and that just hurt so much, even if he was “sorry”. I thought he loved me.<br><br>I’m planning on going back tomorrow to pick up my cat and get the rest of my stuff. I don’t think I’m gonna take him back after this, but I’m just so heartbroken. I just want to get over this whole thing, and I think we’re done.<br><br>How do I handle this? I plan on just picking up my stuff and leaving, but I want him to know how much he hurt me. I want him to know what he did was messed up and I’m not gonna tolerate this kind of treatment. What do I say? Please help me.<br><br>TL;DR: My bf said he’s not attracted to me and doesn’t want a relationship with someone my size. I’m just so hurt and I don’t know how to handle this. Please help me.

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