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My (F28) bf (M33) has said he’s going to die for me, does that mean what I think it does?

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I’ve known “Bob” for about 5 years, he’s got some mental health issues but works with them the best he can. We’re over 3 years together and he’s always been very romantic. He’s old school, never says anything with intention to hurt me, always treats me with the outmost respect and kindness, he’s the kindest man I’ve ever met. I’m not telling you all of this so you can say he sounds like a wonderful guy, I’m telling you because it’s important to understand when you read the rest. <br><br>The other night I was cooking dinner and he walked into the kitchen and hugged me, saying “I’d die for you if it ever came to that.” He said it in such a casual way, it sent shivers down my spine. I’ve heard people say this phrase before, I’ve never really heard it used in a romantic way though, and it was one of the sweetest things he’s ever said to me. It’s been on my mind ever since. <br><br>I know he means it, but the thought of him dying for me is terrifying. It scares me to death, I don’t ever want to have to see that. I understand he was being romantic, but he didn’t realize the weight it carries. <br><br>How do I approach this with him? Should I tell him how I feel? Can I understand where he’s coming from and just say thank you and be done with it? I don’t want him to feel like he can’t express his feelings to me.<br><br>Edit: I am aware of the fact that he didn’t mean that he would die for me under any circumstances. I also know what he means, he would die to save me if that situation were to arise. It’s not about that. I just want to find a way to tell him it kind of scared me a little.<br><br>Edit2: For the people saying that it’s not right that he said that. It’s not wrong. It is his feelings, and I appreciate it. It’s just something I need to talk to him about because it scared me a bit. He didn’t say it in a threatening way, and he also didn’t say that he would die for me no matter what, he said he’d die for me if it came to that, meaning if it would save my life. <br><br>Also, for those saying I don’t deserve him. We have an equally good relationship in both parts. We both care about each other as much as the other one does, we’re equals and we always discuss things and are very open about our feelings and opinions. We communicate a lot, we have a healthy relationship. <br><br>Anyway, I’m going to talk with him about it. Thank you very much for all your comments. I really appreciate them. And thank you for making me laugh so much.

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