I have spent an hour "cleaning" my wife's closet and ended up feeling like a massive failure.

Nope! That's what I felt like, "a massive failure" after cleaning my wife's closet. We live in a 210 sqft apartment and she has accumulated a lot of stuff. So today I had decided to clean her closet and deliver some housekeeping. Here is what I did:<br><br>1. Removed everything from her closet (around 3 hours)<br>2. Cleaned the closet (another 2 hours, including vacuuming and wiping down everything with soap and water)<br>3. Removed all the hangers (500) and washed them in warm soap water<br>4. Put 150 of them back (I removed 350 wire hangers that I washed and will donate as I don't want to throw them in the recycling facility. It was madness and I nearly cried)<br>5. Put back 10% of her clothes that were actually worth keeping<br>6. Removed 15 bags of trash from her closet (These were mostly boxes, cardboard, broken shoes, broken bags, etc.)<br>7. Put 8 large bags of clothes that were in good condition in the basement to donate them<br><br>What is left now is enough to fill up 2 walk-in closets.<br><br>Now, I have done this many times before, and she always wanted my help with the cleaning, but it felt like she didn't know what to do with her items. I also found her gym bag from 3 years ago that was just left there, and she doesn't even work out anymore. I found boxes of single shoes, broken shoes, stuff that had been destroyed by bugs, boxes of single socks, cardboard, etc. I also found the gym bag she bought for me years ago, which was in the original box, unopened. She spent around $80 on it, which I found kind of sad because it was such a waste.<br><br>I don't know how to feel, but I feel sad. I just feel like I have failed at something. This morning I told her we need to find a larger place for us to live in, and that she might want to consider downsizing. I told her that we don't have enough space, but she may need to sacrifice some of her stuff if she wants to move. She replied that she would rather live in a small studio than throw anything away, and that she has marinated some meat for us for lunch.<br><br>After lunch, I went back to the closet and started cleaning, but after 6 hours I still have a mess to deal with. I didn't even get to check the 5 boxes on the top shelf, the dresser, or the large trunk under the bed. I know I have done nothing wrong, but I am really sad and disappointed. I have cleaned her room many times before and she always wants me to do it, but this is too much. She is very sweet and nice but has a really bad relationship with her stuff.<br><br>I just don't know what to say or do anymore. I love her a lot, but this behavior is getting to me mentally, to the point where I just wish she would take care of her stuff and not rely on me because I feel like I'm failing her.<br><br>&#x200B;<br><br>Edit: Fuck it. The answer is obvious. I will leave her and move and never look back. I will never be with someone that has such a problematic relationship with "stuff". This is my sign.