I'm about to kick my husband to the curb and most of you will probably laugh at me for why.

Here's the deal. I already have my bags packed and I've been waiting for him to come home from work so I can make my grand departure. I'm not doing this lightly. I've been married for nearly 13 years and not once have I threatened divorce for any reason, big or small. I'm not one of those people who says "If you ever ______ then it's over."<br><br>However, I just found out that my husband has been ordering delivery from fast food chains using DoorDash, UberEats, GrubHub, etc. almost daily while I was at work. I'm talking Wendy's, Subway, Arby's, KFC, McDonald's, Popeye's, etc. I looked at our credit card statement and he was having delivered around lunch time and each delivery was at least $15 with tip and fees, sometimes closer to $25. When he got home he would cook himself supper again. In other words, every day he was eating out for lunch, then cooking at home for supper.<br><br>I'm not mad about the eating out. I'm mad because I am the one who earns nearly 70% of our household's income while he earns the other 30%. I'm mad because, while I don't mind him cooking at home, the groceries are 100% on me. He does not buy groceries and does not even have a bank account. He keeps his money separate from mine and refuses to open a joint account.<br><br>This is the straw that broke the camel's back because we got married young and I worked my ass off to put him through college. I worked my ass off to put him through medical school. I worked my ass off to put food on the table and a roof over our heads while he was in training. I dealt with him asking me to fix his meals, iron his clothes, sweep the floors, do the laundry, etc. I did all of this, and still do all of this, all while putting in 50-60 hour work weeks at my office job.<br><br>Then, when he finally started making money as a resident, instead of taking some of the burden from me or putting money aside for our future, he started spending every penny he made and didn't save a thing. He didn't buy us a new house or a new car. He didn't save for a big trip or purchase anything big. No, he just spent every penny he made on useless stuff like a $300 pair of jeans because he thought they looked cool. Then, he had the audacity to tell me that when he gets out of his residency, I'll be able to stay home with our kids because he'll be able to support us. Well, his residency is over and not only am I still working 60 hours a week, but he's still refusing to contribute to groceries, gas, saving for our future, or even buying himself a pair of pants. And now, I just found out he's spending our money having fast food delivered to him while he works from home when groceries are 100% on me and I still fucking iron his clothes for him. <br><br>So, with that, I'm done.<br><br>Edit: I should also mention that he doesn't even make that much money. He's a primary care physician and he doesn't even break $200,000 a year. I make significantly less than that and have been since before I was 30, but it's still a very significant amount of money. Even still, with him making what he does, there is absolutely no excuse for him to not contribute to groceries or anything else in this household.<br><br>Edit 2: Also, just to clarify, my issue isn't that he wants me to stay at home. I'm happy to go to work. I like my job, I'm good at it, and I make a lot of money doing it. My issue is that we need my income to survive, especially considering he refuses to save money, so if he wants me to stay at home, then he needs to make a lot more money. He doesn't. Therefore, we can't afford for me to stay at home. It's really that simple. <br><br>Also, yes, I am in therapy. I have been for a couple of years now.