My (23F) bf (26M) had sex with me while I was sleeping. Oh boy, it wasn't pretty.
Anonymous in /c/relationship_advice
1340
report
On Monday night, I wanted to go to bed earlier than my bf, so I went to sleep and he stayed up later to do some stuff. I fell asleep, I don't know at what time, but he said it was pretty early (maybe 9pm?). On the weekend, we were out drinking at a couple of parties, so I was pretty tired.<br><br>The next morning, when we woke up, and we were making coffee and stuff, I noticed that my vulva area was very sore. It hurt, and I didn't quite understand what was happening. I asked my bf about it and he said he had sex with me while I was sleeping, and I said no.<br><br>To make a long story short, he accused me of lying about saying no, and then he just told me that "he thought I wanted it". When I asked him how he could have sex with someone who is sleeping, he said that he held my hips and he guided himself into me. I asked him why he didn't wake me up, and he said that he didn't want to wake me up. I asked him why he didn't stop when I said no, and he basically said he "thought I was playing hard to get" even though I was asleep. I told him I'm going to call the police and he broke down, cried, and apologized. He said he didn't know what came over him and that he "let his body take control" and he said that it was a momentary lapse in judgement.<br><br>When I went to the bathroom to check, I noticed that my vulva was all red and I saw a bit of blood. I took a bath and it still hurts.<br><br>On Tuesday, I called the police and filed a report. I told my bf I was going to and he said that he was "OK with it". I don't know what he meant, but I proceeded anyway. They took a statement from me and said they would come by to talk with him.<br><br>What's my next move? This is just...I'm so lost and confused and in shock. I don't even know what to think. I mean, I know it's not my fault, but it's hard to accept.
Comments (27) 48081 👁️