I made a big mistake on a date... and I learned an important lesson from it.

My life philosophy is to live with minimalism and to take care of our planet. I don't really tell it to people that I have just met, but I tell it to people with whom I have a certain connection.<br><br>So one day I met a girl, we had a nice relationship and we ate together and all that, and one day she asked me "what do you think about if we go to the restaurant with my car?". I thought "shit I don't know if I should tell her that she is stuck in society's mind and that I don't like cars, or nothing?"<br><br>I hesitated and she asked me why. I finally told her that I didn't like cars (because it's not a good impact for the environment, because it's a sign of slavery, blablabla). But the biggest mistake I made during this date was that I said "I don't like cars... you're wasting your time and money on that, it's useless to have a car". <br><br>She was very surprised, I could see that she was hurt and frustrated by what I had just said. When I saw her reaction I told her "no wait, I didn't want to hurt your feelings, I just told you what I think, I'm sorry". But the damage was done, I saw her reaction, trust was broken and she never texted me again. <br><br>She was hurt because I attacked her habits, she was hurt because I had just destroyed the nice image she had of me. <br><br>She was hurt by everything I said, and I could see it in her eyes. But I think she felt bad mostly for the last sentence "you're wasting your time and money on that, it's useless to have a car". <br><br>It was so stupid, I should have only said "I don't like cars, and I feel like it is useless to have a car, I refuse to consume it, but it's just my way of thinking". <br><br>So I got a lesson from that, even though I think I was right to tell her what I thought, I should have done it in a less aggressive way. In fact I shouldn't have said that she didn't have to have a car, I should have said that I felt like I didn't have to have a car. I should have said "I feel like I don't need a car", but not "you don't need a car".<br><br>I learned something important, now I know that I should not attack people for their habits or their way of thinking, but I should only say what I think about a subject and not what they should think about it. <br><br>If I had to live this experience again, I would do it differently, I would say "thank you but I don't like going to the restaurant with a car, it's my life philosophy and I think it's bad for our planet".