It is unethical to have kids these days (one for the parents here that have kids, or are considering it)

I am in the dating phase of a new relationship, and the question of kids is always brought up. I am 41M, and she is 32F. She is of the opinion that kids are mandatory - pretty much the same opinion her family has. <br><br>I am not sure what your views are on kids, but a few of you have mentioned being fathers. Hopefully this might interest you.<br><br>I have worked in software for the last 20 years, have good skills, and make good money. I was lucky enough to have good parents that helped me achieve this, and I have done pretty well. <br><br>We know what the world will be like in 20 years, given the condition it is in today. It is not going to be a very good place by any stretch, and kids will face challenges that we cannot imagine. <br><br>This is a long post, but the main point is this: if you have kids, know that you are sentencing them to a crappy, miserable existence in most cases. If you are not ready for this, and are willing and able to keep your reproductive organs to yourself, you don’t have kids. <br><br>I personally am not going to have kids. I am not ready to do so as I still have things I need to work on, and I see it as selfish to bring children into this world if you can’t be a good parent. <br><br>I am interested in hearing your thoughts on this. <br><br>The following is a list of about 40 reasons that I have come up with as to why it is unethical to have kids in this day and age:<br><br>1. The world is a very unstable place. The economy, environment, and political-social environment are all in very bad states.<br>2. Kids are a financial burden, and raising them is like being broke for the rest of your life. <br>3. Kids are an emotional rollercoaster.<br>4. Kids are a time burden.<br>5. Kids are a relationship burden, and having kids can lead to divorce (and a bunch of other issues).<br>6. Having kids limits the freedom to live your life as you want to.<br>7. The future is not going to be easy.<br>8. There are too many people on the planet and too many unwanted kids.<br>9. There is not enough good role modelling in the world.<br>10. You will die and leave them and your legacy behind.<br>11. It is very stressful to have kids. This stress can impact your overall health and wellbeing.<br>12. Raising kids will likely lead to burnout.<br>13. Kids might be better off without parents.<br>14. Kids are used as a means of production and tax generation by governments.<br>15. Kids will have to fight in foreign wars.<br>16. Kids will have to deal with the impact of pollution and global warming.<br>17. Kids will have to work jobs that they will hate and resent.<br>18. Kids might suffer from mental health issues.<br>19. Kids might suffer from physical health issues.<br>20. Kids might suffer from bullying.<br>21. Kids might suffer from abuse.<br>22. Kids might suffer from neglect.<br>23. Kids might be forced to participate in traditional holidays and activities they don’t want to.<br>24. Kids might be forced to participate in sports or other activities they don’t want to.<br>25. Kids are always going to disappoint their parents.<br>26. Kids may grow up using drugs.<br>27. Kids may engage in poor life choices.<br>28. Kids will have to pay taxes (most likely higher taxes).<br>29. Kids will have to get a job and likely participate in the drudge.<br>30. Kids will be forced to live a certain type of life (like a suburban one).<br>31. Kids will be forced to participate in a traditional school system that isn’t always the best.<br>32. Kids will have to deal with the existential crises of life.<br>33. Kids will have to deal with death and loss.<br>34. Kids will have to participate in a monetary system that isn’t always fair.<br>35. Kids will have to live in a time that is not very interesting (as opposed to the 50s-90s that were).<br>36. Kids will have to live in a time with a shit ton of conflict.<br>37. Kids may be homeless, or face financial insecurity.<br>38. Kids may live in a time of war, and have to fight in the war.<br>39. Kids may live in a time of famine, and have to deal with hunger and food insecurity.<br>40. Kids may live in a time of disease, and have to deal with illness.