I can’t believe my wife did this

This is too personal to post in any other chambers but I just need to vent this somewhere, I can’t believe this shit. My(26M) wife(24F) and I have a kid in middle school and one that’s 4 and about a month ago we had our first big argument in a long time. It was about bedtime routines for the kids and what chores we both do. I work 60-70 hour weeks, commute like an hour each way, and she’s a stay at home mom. Now granted I think the 60s-70s was messed up but I do consider this the modern day equivalent. <br><br>I do laundry, cook every night, and clean every night. I also mow the lawn, shovel snow, and do the groceries. I use an app to communicate with my wife about when I’m gonna be home from work and about any schedule changes. During our argument she said something that stuck with me. “I wish you could genuinely see how hard it is to be a stay at home mom. I wish you could see how hard it is to take care of two kids, cook, clean, do laundry, and go grocery shopping all on your own for a full week.” <br><br>So I thought this was a bit fucked up. I give her a shit ton of freedom, a very nice house, and take care of our kids, but also give her plenty of time to herself and friends. However I decided fuck it I’ll do it and I’ll show her. <br><br>I did everything for the kids and the house for a week. Cooked, cleaned, did laundry, helped with homework and took them to their activities, and I did it all while still working. I communicated with her the whole time like I always did about when I was gonna be home and when I was gonna pick up the kids. <br><br>Guess what? I found it very manageable. <br><br>So after the week was over, I told my wife I did it all by myself and she was pissed. Like actually pissed that I didn’t think being a stay at home mom was hard. <br><br>I don’t understand. I was right, and she was wrong, and she’s mad at me? Even though I do so much for our family?<br><br>Edit: To clarify I don’t think being a stay at home mom is easy. I think it’s very difficult. I was trying to prove a point to my wife after she said what she said. I also want to say that I’m not trying to brag about working 60-70 hours. It’s very difficult and exhausting but I’m trying to set up a better future for my family. Also want to clarify that I don’t care about the gender roles. I believe a man can be a stay at home dad and a woman can be the bread winner. I think this is a healthy dynamic for a family. <br><br>Also I want to clarify that when I say I do everything after work, it’s only Monday through Friday. On weekends I do everything and she does nothing but on weekdays when I’m at work she does everything and I do nothing. <br><br>I just wanted to say I didn’t mean to offend anyone. I just wanted to vent about my situation. I’m gonna go talk to my wife.