My (30f) husband (34m) is a wonderful husband, but not a very good father. How to I communicate this to him?

My husband is overall an amazing man, who loves me more than life itself. He always makes sure that we have enough, that I am happy, that I am loved and respected and we have great communication and a healthy marriage. <br><br>We have 2 kids, one is 5 years old and one is 3 years old. He is an amazing husband, but not a very good father. <br><br>When i say that, i dont mean that he is neglecting them or anything. It just seems like he doesnt have any patience to deal with them. He will sometimes shout at them for things that they cant help. Like, the 3 year old will throw things around, and my husband would shout at him, not realizing that he is 3. Like, he knows that the child is 3. I am not saying that children should be allowed to do whatever they want, just that it is like he wants to deal with them as if they are adults. <br><br>Sometimes he comes home and has to play the role of a parent, not a play buddy. Like, the kids need food, they need baths, they are cranky and need attention. Some days are worse than others, but i feel like he is not capable of being alone with them. <br><br>I feel like i am dumping all this on him because he is the father however i have to go to work too and earn money. So, i would like to know if any other parents have been in this situation? How would you approach this issue? I dont want to make him feel like a bad father. I want to make sure he is aware of how his behaviour is affecting the children but i also dont want to emasculate him. <br><br>This is a serious problem for me and i would really like to approach it properly.