My girlfriend of 9 months is moving in, but she’s still got a separate bank account and doesn’t want to talk about moving in together after a year, what’s the next step?
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My (26F) girlfriend (26F) and I have been together for almost 9 months, and I just found out she’s moving in to a new place at the end of the month. We’ve been talking about it for a while, but we didn’t have a lot of money for moving. She’s found an apartment and I said that I’d love to move in with her. She said yes!<br><br>She’s still got her own bank account and we don’t share finances yet, and she said she’s not ready for that level of commitment. Fair enough! But when I started talking about our “five year plan”, she clammed up. I asked her what she thought about living together for a year and then reassessing our finances and considering moving in together more permanently, and she basically said that she’s not ready to talk about that yet.<br><br>I’m not sure where to go from here - I feel ready for the next step, but I don’t want to push her. Any suggestions? Should I just enjoy the moment?<br><br>TL;DR my girlfriend and I are moving in together, but she’s not ready to talk about the next step. What do I do?<br><br>EDIT: thanks so much for all the responses, everyone! I think I have some work to do talking to my girlfriend about this, but it sounds like it’s going to be a really valuable conversation for both of us.
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