It's hard to understand the "desperation" and "awkwardness" of incels because real problems like homelessness do exist in this world

I am a teenager who had an extremely lonely childhood, was bullied in school, had no friends and never had a relationship. Now I am working as a developer and I am doing well in my career. I still never got laid and I have no social life. <br><br>I understand it sucks to be lonely. You will feel depressed, anxious, desperate and etc. But I didn't let it all consume me. I still studied hard, worked hard, learned new things, exercised and did the best I could with my life. But I feel highly lucky. Anyone can get a serious disease, or a mental disorder, or get into a dreadful accident, or get homeless at any time and there is no "working hard" can save you. If you get homeless, you will be viewed as subhuman scum by society and no amount of "hard work" will get you a home to live in. No amount of "hard work" will get you a decent hospital to treat your disease. I don't know how people can say "well I worked hard and now I am doing well" when the simple truth is anyone can get fucked up at any time. <br><br>I don't know. I am probably overreacting but I don't really get why being lonely is a problem. It's normal. It's not like people talk to each other much nowadays. I don't really have a problem with it. I don't need other people to be happy. And I don't really get the desperation and how incels are so fixated on getting a relationship when there are much bigger and serious problems in the real world.