My wife “baby-trapped” me

I put baby-trap in quotation marks because I’m not sure what she did is the actual definition of baby trap, she didn’t have a kid to make me stay, just against my will.<br><br>So my wife (32F) and I (34M) have been together for eight years. We have two kids, a five year old and a three year old. We were both on the same page when it came to kids, we both wanted two and we both agreed that we wanted to be done having kids before our youngest was one. Well, our youngest is now three and we are both done with having kids. <br><br>I had a vasectomy three years ago and she went in to get her tubes tied a year after that. We have not used any other form of birth control since. <br><br>Three months ago, she comes home from a PTA meeting (she’s the president) and she acts different. Usually when she comes home she’s all about the kids and making sure they’re happy and healthy. But on this day, she was different. She was quiet, didn’t talk much. She made dinner for the kids and sent them straight to their rooms when they were done. She didn’t even let them play for a bit like she usually does. I asked her what was wrong and she told me to sit. I sat down and she started talking. <br><br>She told me that she’s pregnant. I was shocked. I ask her how far along she is and she tells me that she’s three months. I was like “Three months? How did you not know this? Why are you just telling me now?” She told me that when she was at the PTA meeting, a mom stopped her and talked about her kids. Then she congratulated my wife on her new baby. My wife was confused and told the mom she was just a few years away from being done with the baby-carrying years. Then the lady laughed and said “well, I guess NOT yet.” <br><br>My wife said she was confused and asked the mom what she meant. Then the mom said “You’re a new mom, congrats!” My wife said she was shocked. She thought that either the lady was talking about another mom or she just got my wife confused with another lady. My wife said she remember getting a wine cooler from the snack table and when she did, she asked the lady that was standing next to her (it was another mom) if she could feel her tummy. Then my wife lifted up her shirt a little bit to show her tummy. She said that the lady congratulated her as well. My wife said she was confused so she went to the car after that and cried. Then she came home and told me. <br><br>I was in shock as well. I asked if we needed to do a paternity test to make sure it was mine. She got mad and told me it was “Obviously my kid. I don’t cheat.” Then I asked her when she knew she was pregnant. She told me she knew for a month but didn’t tell me because she wanted to make sure it was real that she was pregnant since she had her tubes tied. I asked her what the hell was she doing not telling me I might have another kid on the way? Than she told me that she knew I didn’t want another so she wanted to make sure it was real before telling me. I told her that she should have told me as soon as she found out. She said that she knew I would get mad. I told her I WAS mad. <br><br>Anyways, she’s five months now and I’m still processing that I might have another kid. It’s not a mistake, we both wanted the kids we have now, and we both knew what we were doing when we were having them. It was a wanted thing for both of us so I can’t call them a mistake. <br><br>Anyways, after we had our second, we moved into a bigger house and it is perfect for a family of four, not five. So we need to either get a new house or make some changes to the house we’re in. We’re both thinking about either putting an addition on the house and extending the second floor to hold a fifth bedroom or turning the basement into a “living space” instead of a “game room” <br><br>I think she did this on purpose. She never wanted to have her tubes tied and always wanted to have three kids. I think that since she knew I was serious about not wanted more than two, she waited until after she had her tubes tied to get pregnant again. I think she knew she was pregnant before she had her tubes tied. <br><br>I was arguing with a friend about this yesterday and he told me I sound like a woman saying “I knew something was different about her that day”. But I’m telling you, I KNEW something was off. She WAS acting different. <br><br>Anyways, what’s the best way to go about this? She wants to have the baby. I do not. I asked her if she would adopt the baby out or give it up for adoption if I’m not willing to be a dad to it and she said no. <br><br>Can we pay someone to either terminate the pregnancy or give it up for adoption? <br><br>I’m not joking when I say that our house can NOT fit a five person family. Where exactly would the child sleep? The kids share a room because we didn’t have enough rooms to give each one their own room. I refuse to sleep in the guest room and let the kids all sleep in our room. That’s ridiculous.<br><br>I don’t want this child. I don’t want to be a dad of three. I want to be a dad of two. I wanted to have two kids since I was little and I’m not going to be happy with three. <br><br>What do I do?<br><br>TLDR: I think my wife got pregnant on purpose. Do we have the right to terminate a pregnancy that’s healthy?