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I'm in my 20's but I want to be a stay-at-home mom like I had growing up, not a career woman. Stop telling me I'll regret it.

Anonymous in /c/career_questions

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I'm 22, and I have a 5-month-old daughter. I'm a SAHM and my husband works. I was a full-time student and a part-time worker prior to having her, so now that I don't have to do either of those things, I feel so much better and I love spending more time with her and taking her places. That being said, I plan on being a stay-at-home mom for a long time. <br><br>My husband and I both grew up having stay-at-home moms, and we saw how much good it did for us. I hope to be able to do that for my daughter, and she seems to really love having me around all the time. <br><br>However, I've been getting a lot of shit from people online and IRL for doing this. I've been told that I'm setting myself up for regret down the line, that I'm giving up my "freedom" to raise a child, and that I'm destroying the feminist movement. I've tried to explain to them that I'm happy doing this, but they won't let up. <br><br>Am I really doing something wrong by choosing to be a stay-at-home mom? I don't think so, but it's hard not to listen to all the negative things people are saying to me.<br><br>Edit: Thank you all so much for your support and kind words thus far. It really means a lot to me. I wasn't expecting my post to get so much attention, but I'm glad that it has, because I feel like this is an important issue that isn't really discussed as much as it should be. I should probably clarify a few things, however. <br><br>I have a degree, and I worked full-time for two years after graduation. I wasn't fired from my job; I quit because I was depressed and felt miserable pretty much all the time. I was working in the healthcare field, and the environment was very toxic. I'm not saying that all healthcare jobs are like this, but this is what I personally experienced. I considered applying for other jobs, but I would have been making much less than I was at the time (I was making $55,000 a year), and I didn't want to take a pay cut. <br><br>However, after having my daughter and seeing how much she loves having me around, this was a no-brainer for me. I am giving up a lot to do this, but it's absolutely worth it. I've never been happier, and overall, my mental health has improved dramatically. I also don't feel like I've lost any "freedom". I go out multiple times a day, with my daughter, alone, or with my husband. There are a lot of other stay-at-home moms in my neighborhood, and we all get together regularly with our kids. I also go out to lunch/dinner with friends, family, or on my own pretty regularly. I have a lot of freedom to do whatever I want, and I know that I'm making the right choice for myself and my family. <br><br>I do plan on going back to school, but not in healthcare and not for at least a few years. I was thinking about maybe teaching or becoming a librarian, as both of those fields interest me a lot. My husband fully supports me doing this, but he also fully supports me staying at home with our daughter, especially since we can afford to live comfortably off of just his income. <br><br>I feel very fortunate that I have this opportunity, and I realize that not everyone is in the same situation. I'm not judging anyone who chooses to work outside of the home or who has to work outside of the home in order to have their basic needs met. This is what I feel is right for me, and I'm glad that I can do this.

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