My father has alienated almost every member of the family. We've tried and tried but he will not accept us for who we are.

I'm not sure where else to go. I feel like I need to speak with someone. My father is so stuck on his own views and ideas of the world, and he will punish anyone who disagrees with him. I've fallen out with him so many times, but at this point I am just sad and confused.<br><br>He has tried to manipulate my siblings and I by using our mental illnesses against us and by manipulating our emotions to try and control us. He's not very good at it but he's gotten worse and worse as time goes on. He will piss us off and then cry when we express that we are upset with him. I don't even know how he became like this.<br><br>He has cut off so many people and alienated us all. We used to be such a close family, but he has managed to push everyone away and we're all just so tired. His life is his own, and I'm just tired of trying to be a part of it. I've tried and tried but there's so much tension between us now that I can't see us ever having a good relationship again.<br><br>He has made it very clear to us that he does not accept us as who we are. He will not accept us until we stop being who we are. He has said this in many different ways, but I don't know how else to say this. He wants us to be someone else.<br><br>He has also become increasingly violent and hateful. He's not physically violent, but he has threatened us with violence. He's become a lot more passive aggressive. He's become a lot more hateful and bigoted. <br><br>I think there's just a point at which you have to accept that some relationships can't be saved. I've tried for so many years and we've just grown farther and farther apart. I feel so terrible for saying this, but I think we're at a point where it's time to move on with our lives.<br><br>I just wish I knew what had caused this. I have no idea. At one point he was a genuinely kind and caring person, but he has become someone I can't even recognize. I think he's just so angry at the world, and for some reason he thinks those of us closest to him are responsible. I'm tired of trying to please him so he doesn't get angry and I'm tired of being hurt by him.<br><br>This has gone on so long and I am so tired of it. I just want to be happy with my siblings. I want us to move on and build a happy life together and forget about him.<br><br>Sorry, that's all. I just had to say it somewhere.