My adult son is a hoarder and I own the house he is living in.

I am feeling very conflicted about the situation with my son and I would like some opinions.<br><br>My husband passed away about a year ago and I moved into a condo. Our son (27) moved back into the house we shared with my husband, and I kept it for resale value. We kept our house very neat and organized growing up, but my son has been a bit of a slacker and never really put any effort into keeping things tidy in his own life.<br><br>When my husband and I were in the process of selling the house, we were going to clean it up and then sell it. My son asked to stay there and said he would take care of it. We had second thoughts and decided to let him stay there, and then my husband passed away. I didn't have the energy to clean up the house and it was easier just to let our son stay there at the time.<br><br>Well now I am feeling really conflicted about the situation. My son is now a HOARDER. There is trash and dirty dishes everywhere, not to mention dog poop that his dog had left on the carpet. The dog also chewed up all up the trim among other things. He has his own business and has been successful, what he lacks is discipline to keep the house clean.<br><br>I seriously don't know where to begin in terms of cleaning or how to have a conversation with him. He has been drinking heavily since my husband passed away, it has been a really hard time. I want to be kind but at the same time I own the house and I should be able to sell it one day. I am also tired of being in the house and feeling disgusted and depressed.<br><br>Thoughts?