I'm a foster parent and I'm giving my children up for adoption to another family.

I see a lot of posts of people becoming foster parents with the goal of adopting. In the past two years, we fostered 15 children (my youngest bio sibling is my age and was 9 when my wife and I got married so we felt we could handle it) and now we are adopting out the 4 we have currently. They're all siblings and average 8yrs old. We saved them from an absolute shit show of a situation. Over the past 2 years, we have spent countless hours with these kids and bought profession-level equipment to provide the best life possible for them.<br><br>We are now in the process of getting them adopted by someone else. We just can't foster anymore. Honestly, I wouldn't wish this on my worst enemy. We were promised mental health counseling for us and the kids and therapy for the kids. The state gave us jack shit. We had to do it all out of pocket. The foster parents are treated like shit while every person involved in the process are coddled and babied.<br><br>Don't believe the advertising "you'll be saving lives". The foster parents end up being stuck with the tab on all of the expenses. We can barely afford anything after the foster care expenses. We put out so much money because we felt we owed it to these kids to make sure they had happy lives. I didn't expect to be reimbursed for therapy and counseling but I at least expected to be able to write them off on our taxes. We do not get that.<br><br>I think I finally broke yesterday when one caseworker yelled at me for not being able to take another emergency placement.<br><br>The foster care system is a complete joke. I hope you all think long and hard before joining.<br><br>Edit: To all of you who have reached out, it's a bit chaotic here at the moment so please bear with me as I respond. Thank you all for your support.