Why is the concept of “get a job and you can buy dates” so hard for normies to understand is wrong?

To expand on this: So when you go on a date, there’s an expectation of this need to spend money to have a good time on these dates. Be it going to a fancy restaurant, or going out for coffee, or in the worse case scenario having to cover tickets for an event. This is just in general advice for dating, and sure, maybe this is how dating works, maybe this is what people are seeking when dating. Yes, there are caveats like going for hikes and stuff, but it’s not as common as people would like you to think. I think I’ve been on like 3 dates where it was just going for a hike, and with each date it was when I was a teenager. <br><br>But here’s the thing: as an incel, I’m basically pouring my entire paycheck into something that’s likely going to flop. It’s not like I’m splurging my money on stupid things, I’m going to the gym, I’ve been working on my appearance in general, I’m treating myself right. However, my first date in my 20s was a spend of 125 dollars, and it wasn’t even that fun. My second date I spent like 70 dollars, and I had fun talking to her, but I knew that I was unlikely to see her again. My most recent date I spent like $50 and it was pretty mediocre. I had fun, but it didn’t feel like it was worth the spend. If I was to go on a date I would be spending a greater amount of money than that, because that’s how the dating scene expects it. I would need to drop like 200 bucks per date, and I won’t be making that in a week for some time.<br><br>My point, in summary, is that this expectation of spend on a date is ridiculous for someone who isn’t making much money. I don’t see this applied to other aspects of life, except for maybe buying a car, but that’s in a different league. Yet normies don’t seem to grasp this, like they will acknowledge it but won’t actually internalize it. Like sure, let’s say I wasn’t an ugly, awkward, short man, and I had a lot of game and could have a good time on a date, with a girl who was interested in me. I would still be spending a ton of money on these dates, and any normie would say that it’s worth it to find someone you like. But why?