My (28F) bf (31M) gave someone else attention instead of me and it felt bad idk what to do
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My bf and I got into a huge fight last night after we went to my MIL's house for a family dinner. It was such a bad fight and I don't know what to do because with the way he treated me it made me feel like i did something wrong and I don't think I did. It was just an incident that made me feel bad and now I don't know what to do.<br><br>So, my question is can someone give me some advice on what to do? <br><br>Me and my bf have been together for 5 years and we're engaged now. We're planning to get married next year. <br><br>We don't fight often because we're both non confrontational people and I don't want to waste his time with drama that will lead no where. I also don't fight because I don't want to lose him. <br><br>Ok so my MIL does the Rude thing that I hate and she questions my bf and I about not having kids yet. This has been messing with my head for so long since it's so embarrassing and rude. I don't even care about having kids right now so it's not an issue for me and I don't want to have kids. But every time she does this she makes me feel bad about myself and it gives me anxiety that something must be wrong with me. Plus she thinks that I'm too immature to have kids. <br><br>It also makes me feel bad when she says this stuff in front of his other siblings. I don't like getting personal questions from my MIL but I try to ignore it. I just hate being asked personal questions because it's rude. <br><br>So the other night at her house she asks me again about when am I going to get pregnant. <br><br>Right when she asks me this my SIL pulls up and brings her baby with her. <br><br>What happened was that my bf went to the car to grab something and that's when my SIL arrives.<br><br>She gets out of the car holding her baby and I'm still standing by my MIL at the door.<br><br>As I'm standing there feeling like crap over my MIL's questions, my bf who is out in the driveway walks up without saying anything to me or ignoring me completely and he goes to his SIL and starts talking to her andalli her baby and pretty much ignores me. <br><br>What hurt even more was that his SIL had her baby with her and that just made things worse. It made me look even worse because it made it seem like I'm infertile, immature, and useless. It also made his SIL look way better than me in front of his family. <br><br>After that happened my MIL pretty much gloated and talked down on me.<br><br>I don't even care about having kids right now but i just feel embarrassed and humiliated. I feel like I need to prove something. I'm just so hurt that he pretty much ignored me.<br><br>I told my bf that he hurt my feelings and made me look bad but he didn't seem to care at all.<br><br>He is ignoring me and won't talk to me at all.<br><br>The next day my MIL called me to basically call me immature and useless for getting mad over this. She told me to grow up basically and that I need to get over myself. <br><br>I don't even care if my bf is close with his SIL. And I don't even care if he wants to see her baby. I just wish he would have acknowledged me first before he did everything he did. <br><br>I just feel like he doesn't even care about me at all that he made me look bad.
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