Can I (27F) stop being the hostess for our (28M) group?

I have a group of friends that we (me and 4 ex-college roommates and friends of those) go to dinner and stuff about once a month (also we are in a book club and we always hang out around the holidays).<br><br>I met BF in late '17 and we've been together ever since. For the first few years of us dating, I'd invite him to these group hangouts, but he wouldn't always join, and he still didn't really know them well. Well then COVID happened, and we hadn't all hung out in person for a while, and our schedules (we were all working from home) were changing a lot.<br><br>The first time we hung out again in person in early '22, my friends texted our group chat to organize and I asked if I should add BF to the group chat and they said no, let's just plan w/o him. Then we started hanging out again in person, and I was the only one who had a boyfriend (one of them was married and the rest were single). So I was the only one with a +1.<br><br>I would *always* invite them to join us, but they would decline and say something like "no were good without him," or "we haven't all talked in a while," or "we dont wanna intrude". I would still invite them, but eventually I stopped inviting them to hang out (it's hard when they say they don't want to be there). (I do invite them to bigger group things like birthday parties, I'm not trying to exclude them).<br><br>The group chat is just, me and my 4 old friends. The group chat where we plan stuff is me + BF + me's 4 friends. I get invites for us (me + BF).<br><br>I'm starting to think that my old friends might feel excluded (no matter how many times I've asked them to come) since I'm still inviting them and not the other way around. It feels like I'm the hostess for the group and I'm the one who always reaches out. I don't really know how to break this and put it on them.<br><br>Any thoughts on how to proceed?