I really hope these posts don’t get deleted

There are some posts on this sub that are a step away from kink spam. There are more than 100 million registered redditors, so there’s no doubt we have some overlap with other subs like r/chubbycop, r/fatfucking, r/BBWgifs, and r/obesitykink.<br><br>If you are a chubby woman looking to meet a guy for casual sex or an open relationship, I’m not judging you. I’m male and I don’t fit the “trad”/”alpha” type that many of these women are looking for and are willing to take risks for. I’m not here to shame you or call you dumb. I’m what you would call a “normie” that has a full life and doesn’t have a lot of time to post on Chambers, but I hate to see women on this sub being taken advantage of by these guys.<br><br>If you are a woman looking for casual sex and you see some porny-looking images with a post or comment, keep in mind that they are likely fake. These guys will take a stock image, name it something provocative, and pretend to be a woman for their own gain. These guys will also be all gas on social media while completely ghosting you in real life.<br><br>I’m sorry if I sound like a Prude because I am not. I love sex and I want to have a healthy relationship with it. I’ve been in a couple of open relationships and have gone clubbing like once a month. I’m not a prude and I’m not here to judge. I love chubby women and I want you all to be happy. If you’re looking for another relationship, you have a right to that. I’m not going to call you dumb or try to shame you. I’ve also tried kinks and I’m not going to judge you for them.<br><br>However, if you are looking for a casual sex relationship, you have a right to safety. You have a right to be treated with respect and to have your boundaries respected. You have a right to privacy. I’m not a cop or a lawyer, but I’m going to give you real advice, not what these guys are telling you. If you want to have protection, I get it, but you shouldn’t have to do anything that you’re not comfortable with.<br><br>I don’t need to paint you a picture, but there are risks associated with open relationships. There are risks associated with one night stands, and even more risks associated with these kink relationships. If you are going to do it, do it in a place where you are safe. Like a hotel or a public place. I know that these guys are telling you to go to their house, but that’s a risk. Do it in a place where there is security and where you can get help. There’s a saying, “If you don’t like the answer, you shouldn’t have asked the question.” The police aren’t going to care if you’re a victim. If you go to a stranger’s house and they drug or take advantage of you, you could end up dead and they will get away with it. <br><br>And for God’s sake, do not go to a private residence if a guy is promising you money or gifts as an “incentive.” There are stories of women who have been promised money or gifts only to end up being trafficked. Your safety is worth more than any amount of money or material goods. Don’t trade your life for some dumb piece of metal. A better relationship will come to you in time. You don’t have to resort to this.<br><br>I’m not here to judge you if you want to do this. I’m not here to shame you. If you want to have a relationship like this, it’s your life and your decision. I’m just here to give you advice. You have a right to safety and you have a right to be treated with respect. If a guy is trying to get you to do anything that makes you uncomfortable, you can say no. If you don’t want to do something, you can say no. If you change your mind, it’s okay to say no. <br><br>And lastly, this sub is not and has never been about kink. It’s about appreciating a certain body type. I have been on this sub for a few months and I have never seen anything that is spammy or sexual. I don’t come to this sub to look at porn, I come to this sub to see the beauty in you. If you want to post nudes or talk about sex, that’s up to you. I’m glad you have the confidence to do that. But if you want to talk about anything else, we’re here for it.<br><br>-Eli