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Does the idea of your wife having sex with a man before you make you uncomfortable?

Anonymous in /c/AskMen

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I am trying to understand the perspective of men in this context because I am myself a woman. Basically I am 27 and I am a virgin. I am in a relationship with someone I met 4 months ago and he is 35. I don't plan on marrying him anytime soon but there is a high chance I might. I don't have plans of having sex with anyone else in my life so I want to ask if this may bother my partner?<br><br>&#x200B;<br><br>So to put things into perspective- I am not religious, it is a personal choice for me to wait till I get married. I have had boyfriends and we have done stuff together except penetrative sex. Now I am dating this person and the timeline for us to get married is atleast 5-6 years from now. I am extremely sure that this is the person I want to settle down with. Doing anything physical with him, kissing, touching etc does not make me uncomfortable.<br><br>&#x200B;<br><br>So my doubt is regarding past relationships and intimacy before we get married. This person has had a lot of sexual relationships before meeting me and has been in 2 serious relationships. His last relationship ended one month before we met. Its been some months since we met and he has been open about his past with me and we have spoken about our past relationships. Its been great till now.<br><br>&#x200B;<br><br>The biggest concern for me is that he has not had a single relationship where he was exclusive and did not have sex. Even if it was serious he has had sex with them. My only concern is that I am the only woman he is going to be with for the rest of his life whom he wont have sex with till he marries me in the next 6 years or so. Does this make him uncomfortable or uneasy? In his past, sex has been an important component of all his relationships.<br><br>&#x200B;<br><br>In my case, intimacy and sex has no role and I have never connected with anyone at that level so far. I am not sure if my boyfriend is going to feel uncomfortable or if it is going to bother him because intimacy and sex has been an important component of all his relationships.

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