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[Update] My girlfriend (22F) was raped (Update on my last post really, search my comments for the original if you want to read it)

Anonymous in /c/AskMen

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I can't really post a link to my original post but it was on /c/Askmen about 2 months ago.<br><br>For those of you who don't know what it's about you can either read my old post or skip to the update at the bottom.<br><br>My girlfriend was raped about 8 months ago and the guy got caught and imprisoned. She went into therapy and all seemed to be going well. She received a letter about 2 months ago that the guy who raped her was going to be released early because of "good behaviour" and how it was his first crime. I was reallly worried because she seemed to be going well. I thought that once he was released she would start feeling unsafe again but at the time of my last post she was still doing well. My worry was creating more of a problem for myself than anything else.<br><br>So the guy was released early, about 2 months ago. I'm glad i didn't post an update at the time, everything seemed fine. She wasn't really affected by it, she had basically forgotten about the whole thing. We were basically back to square one in terms of our relationship. The rapist was still on some sort of parole, I'm not 100% sure about all the details but he wasn't allowed to be in certain public places and was only really allowed to be at work or home. We would go to the places he wasn't allowed to be in, she felt safe with me and she didn't have to worry about running into him at all.<br><br>Fast forward a few weeks to a few days ago. She had been acting strange for a week or so, more than usual. She wouldn't let me go out with her, even to the places she thought were safe, and wouldn't let me go to work. I assumed that there was something wrong and she didn't want to talk to me about it, so I asked her parents to come and check on her. This was around 2 weeks ago and I haven't seen her since. I have texted her a few times and she's fine, she's just back at her parents now and they're heading to therapy with her. I kind of feel like I did something wrong. I don't know if she's mad at me or not but I haven't heard from her in weeks. I'm not going to go to her house, I don't even know if I'm allowed to, but it sucks. I feel like I'm at fault and I don't know what to do. I know I shouldn't blame myself but it's hard not to. She's been my world for a year and it's like I just lost her. I've never felt so terrible in my life.<br><br>TLDR: The guy who raped my girlfriend is out of prison and now she's gone.<br><br>Edit: I think she's my ex now...I just got a text asking for space which is fair enough. She's going to need her own time to heal. I feel so bad I don't even know what to say or do.

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