I once made a stop at a grocery store and bought a cake and some candles and celebrated my birthday in my car, by myself when my ex refused to take work off to celebrate

Edit 2: Wow, this is crazy! Thank you everyone for the birthday wishes. I can’t respond to everyone but it means a lot! Also, for the people that have been DMing me that I should tell my ex bf about this post, trust me he knows. He still stalks my profile and he has set up many accounts to talk with me in the past. Also, he has been married for several years and this happened years ago. I wasn’t trying to call him out. I just wanted to tell my story.<br><br>Edit 3: Wow, this is crazy! Thank you everyone for the birthday wishes. I can’t respond to everyone but it means a lot! I’m not going to read my DMs right now as a lot of them are from people creeping on me. Also, for the people that have been DMing me that I should tell my ex bf about this post, trust me he knows. He still stalks my profile and he has set up many accounts to talk with me in the past. Also, he has been married for several years and this happened years ago. I wasn’t trying to call him out. I just wanted to tell my story.<br><br>Edit: Thank you everyone for the birthday wishes! I didn’t expect this reaction and appreciate all of the support.<br>When I was 20 I dated a guy I met online. Our birthdays are near each other (his was 4 days before mine). I was super excited for my 21st birthday and wanted to celebrate by going out to the bar with him and some friends. I invited him out with me and he said no. I asked him why and he said he needed to work. He was a student so he was his own boss. He said the only time he has off is his actual birthday. So for him to take off work he had to do double the work during his birthday and he could not miss that. So I made other plans with my sister to go to the bar and he was supposed to tag along. I was disappointed he wasn’t going to be there but celebrating without him would have been okay if he put a little effort into my birthday. He didn’t. On my actual birthday he texted me happy birthday and spent his day doing whatever he wanted without me. I had an early birthday party with my family on the Saturday before my actual birthday and he didn’t come. My birthday is in August and in July we had already planned out a trip to see him and I had made plans for us to go out to an Italian restaurant for my birthday and he agreed. So my birthday comes along and I was really excited for that. He ended up cancelling that and bought a pizza and some wine and we ate it in his kitchen. So the only plans he made for my birthday was when I planned it so I figured he didn’t care since he wasn’t going to put any effort into making my birthday special. So on my 22nd birthday I didn’t tell him it was my birthday and he also forgot. He’s birthday was still celebrated and I bought him some presents and a cake and helped him celebrate to show him how much effort you can put into making someone feel special on their birthday. He didn’t really even say thanks, he just took the presents and enjoyed the cake. <br><br>He ended up breaking up with me a year or two after that. I was really upset but after I moved on I realized he gave me no effort when I was dating him. <br><br>2 years ago my sister had a baby and she told me that I was the best aunt in the world because I sent her kids a present on their birthdays. It made me think back on this situation and realize how shitty this guy made me feel. I’ve also been remembering the anger and sadness I felt after he broke up with me and I realize how much better I am now that he’s out of my life. He’s married now and has a baby on the way. A part of me is a little vindictive right now because I know his wife and children aren’t his priority.