My girlfriend called off our wedding (April 2025) and is pregnant with my child. Is this as bad as it sounds?

I just wanted to get this off my mind and get some advice. I(36m) and my ex girlfriend (28f) have known each other for around 10 years. We were friends for 6 years before we started dating. We dated for 3 years before we decided to get married. I honestly thought we were going to spend the rest of our lives together. We didn’t have any real problems, but she told me she really wasn’t sure of getting married and decided to call the wedding off. I was really disappointed, but accepted her decision and tried to move on with my life. But just after new year’s I received a text message that really floored me. I was extremely shocked, as she wrote that she was pregnant with my child.<br><br>At first I didn’t really understand. It turned out that she had a one night stand in December. She also wrote that she didn’t want to keep the child, so we decided to meet and talk. During our meeting I tried to change her mind and asked her if she was 100% sure. She was really adamant on not keeping the baby. I was obviously really disappointed, as I have always dreamed of becoming a father. I haven’t said anything, but I was truly hoping that we would have kids together.<br><br>I want to become a father to the child. I really don’t want her to abort the baby. She agreed to let me become the father and even let me keep the baby if she didn’t want to become a mother. However, there is a catch: the child isn’t mine. I offered to become the sole legal guardian of the child, but she wants me to only become the father if the child is biologically mine. That’s why she wanted to wait with the abortion until the paternity test. I agreed to this, although I really don’t like the idea of a random guy’s baby growing inside her uterus. I am still really hoping that the baby is mine. <br><br>The next appointment for the paternity test is in late January. But until then, I am going crazy. I have truly thought about us getting back together and raising the child together. I really think that she made a mistake when she called of the wedding and I am hoping that she will change her mind once the results are out. If the baby is truly mine, I want us to raise the baby together and even get married. I really don’t want her to abort the baby, as it would really hurt my feelings. But even if the baby isn’t mine, I don’t want her to abort it. I would like to take care of the child with her and I really hope that we can find our way back into each other’s hearts. I know that this is a long shot and extremely selfish, but I really don’t want to let her go. <br><br>So my question to you is: should I wait for the results or should I move on with my life and forget about her?<br><br>Edit: I didn't buy her a ring, we decided to save the money we would have spent on rings on the wedding. It wasn't very expensive though, as we didn't really believe in huge weddings. We wanted to keep it as intimate as possible.<br><br>Honesty is the best policy. I don't understand why I should keep any information to myself. <br><br>I apologize for my inconsistent English. I am not native to the language and I appreciate any corrections to my post.<br><br>Even if my ex would change her mind and we would get back together I would never force her to keep the baby. I would obviously let her decide whether she keeps the baby or not. I also know that there are a lot of children waiting for adoption, but I personally want to become a father. I am a bit too old to still wait to become a father. <br><br>I am not forcing anyone to do anything. Obviously my ex also has a say in this. It's not like I can force her to do anything. I can only state what I would like and then we can come to an agreement.