My wife (F33) has started going to the bar a couple times a week and I (M34) don't know how I feel about it.

My wife has never been much of a drinker. Typically, she will have one glass of wine with dinner and that is it. Not long after the pandemic started she got a job working from home for a company that is also local to us. Recently they have moved to hybrid, where she goes to the office 2 days a week. The rest of the time she is also in the office but not required to be. She will go to the office to work and then usually at lunch she will go hang out with some coworkers at a local bar and have lunch/drink. These days usually end with her coming home around 6-7pm instead of 4-5pm when she goes to the office but isn't required to be there.<br><br>She will also usually go at least one day a week after work to the bar. This also causes her to be home later than usual.<br>Before the pandemic we would always be together in the evenings. So even if she is bringing work home now, we could be together while she does it.<br><br>The first time she told me she was going to lunch with co-workers at a bar I remember being surprised because I've never heard of that before. And they don't even order food half the time she says. Just drinks. The conversation usually stops shortly after her mentioning the particular bar that they are going to for lunch with co-workers.<br><br>So I (stupidly) waited too long to talk to her about the bars before/after work and now I find out she has met and made 2 new "friends" at these bars and they don't even work at her company. One is a chef and the other works at the bar. I've heard a lot about these guys and all it seems they do is talk about women.<br><br>So now it seems like she just goes to the bar with these guys and maybe a couple coworkers as well. They are clearly just using her for free drinks/food while she is there. One of the coworkers that goes told me that the chef is trying to get my wife to hook up with him. I confronted my wife with this information and she told me I was crazy and that he is just a friend. She also told me that she was allowed to go to the bar whenever she wanted with whoever she wants and that she won't be controlled.<br><br>I know she is allowed to do whatever she wants but I’m also allowed to question her about it right? I also feel like she is trying to hide something from me and at this point I don’t even feel like I know her anymore. <br><br>Am I in the wrong for thinking she is acting strangely and that I should have a conversation with her about it?<br><br>How would you handle it?