UPDATE: My (27M) girlfriend (26F) wants to break up cause I asked for a pat down before I gave her a kiss goodnight.

Well, this update was long overdue, so here it is.<br><br>First things first, thanks for the support back then, y'all. I needed that, and it meant alot to me. I got a lot of great advice, and I'm just gonna jump straight into this.<br><br>I sat my gf down, and we talked about it. I explained how her jokes scared me, and that I loved her and didn't want anything to happen to us. I told her how I would never get mad at her for doing something to make herself safer if she felt uncomfortable.<br><br>She seemed to really take it in. She apologised, and said she didn't realise what her jokes did to me, and that she got why I reacted the way I did. She said she wasn't serious about breaking up with me, and we kissed and made up.<br><br>I thought we'd moved past it. I really did. But then she started getting closer to her friend again, and things just went right back to how they were before. She was back to making jokes like that, and smacking me around. She started surprising me again, and that made things worse, because I thought we'd agreed she'd stopped. And she even got a weapon, a small knife, that she'd pull on me from time to time.<br><br>I knew I had to do something. I couldn't just sit back and let things go this way. So I did something just as dumb as what my ex did, and in hindsight, I really should have talked to her about it instead. One day, she tried to surprise me, and she ended up getting tazed and pepper sprayed. Yeah, that wasn't a good day. I just opted to get it over with early, y'know?<br><br>She was pissed, and I don't blame her. We had the toughest fight we've ever had. I told her I couldn't keep dealing with it, and that I had to do something else. She called me a monster and left the house.<br><br>A week later, I got a call from her. She said she's been thinking. She apologised for her behaviour, and said she was willing to talk it out. We agreed to meet up. She said she'd been thinking, and that she's been doing all this because her friend had been doing it to her when they were currently. She said it was a comfort thing, and that she never meant to hurt or scare me. But after she got tazed and sprayed, she realised how I felt, and she said she was sorry.<br><br>I apologised too, for not talking it through and for not helping her sooner. We've been seeing a couples councillor, and they've also been seeing a therapist. It's only been a few months, but we've made some serious progress. It's not like we've not got any problems, but we're working through them together.<br><br>tl;dr: Me and my gf are getting therapy and working through our problems.<br><br>EDIT: For everyone saying this is fake or made up. It's not. But I guess you'll believe what you want. I'm not gonna go through the trouble of proving this happened.