Let's take a moment to acknowledge the fatphobia and bodyshaming that's being overlooked here.

First time poster here, I'm not sure if I'll be downvoted to oblivion but I need to mention this. <br>I'm an 18 year old with short stature and I've had a chubby body type for quite some time now. By no means obese, majority of my friends describe me as "cute" because I have this babyface with chubby cheeks. <br>This's gonna be very long, so bear with me.<br><br>I've been reading this sub for quite a while and I absolutely love it. I love the community in this sub, how much love and appreciation you guys give to chubby women. It's wonderful.<br><br>However, I couldn't help myself but notice something whenever you guys talk about men. <br>You see, as a chubby teen myself, I'm also into the whole chubby romance. I absolutely love the idea of being in a relationship with someone who loves and adores the chubby side of me. Now, when I talk about this to my friends, sometimes the topic of "chubby men" is brought up. That's when the conversation immediately goes south.<br><br>"Oh, no, I couldn't date a chubby guy. If I'm fat, I want my man to be skinny." <br>"I'd never date a fat guy. That's gross." <br>"I'd rather date a skinny guy than a fat one. Skinny guys are just better." <br>"If he's fat, that's a huge turn off." <br><br>These were some of the most common responses I got whenever this topic was brought up. Now, I'm not gonna lie. I agree with them. As a chubby myself, the idea of dating a chubby guy is just not something I find attractive. My friends and I very much prefer the thin/lean type. And that's okay, because you can't force yourself into finding a certain type of person attractive.<br><br>But here's the thing. When you guys talk about your "ideal" relationship, a common theme that I noticed is the "contrast" idea. Essentially, it's when a skinny/lean man is paired with a chubby girl. It seems to be a very common theme whenever you talk about your ideal bf/gf experience. And I get it, we all love a good contrast, and I'm sure a lot of you find that hot.<br><br>However, I see a lot of you openly shaming and making fun of skinny men. Yes, literally skinny men. I've seen so many posts on this sub that mock and dehumanize skinny men, calling them names like "twig", "stick" or "skelator". I've also seen posts where people literally laugh at skinny men and call them ugly because of their body type. It's so hypocritical and I just can't comprehend it.<br><br>You know, I'm not here to police your sexuality or tell you what you should find attractive. But I am here to tell you that openly body shaming and mocking skinny men is just as terrible as openly body shaming and mocking chubby women. You don't have to find them attractive, but you don't have to be assholes about it either.<br><br>And if you think you can justify your behavior by saying "oh, but being skinny is better than being fat", you're just being ignorant. A skinny person still faces a lot of difficulties and insecurities just because of their body type, and acting as if it's not a big deal is honestly kind of gross.<br><br>So yeah, that's my post. Skinny guys are still guys and they still deserve your respect, even if you don't find them attractive. Thank you for reading.<br><br>Edit: Just to clarify a few things. Since this post blew up, I've gotten quite a few messages asking me about what I think is the "skinky" line. By "skinny", I mean anything under 60kg/132lbs for a fully grown adult male, which is essentially a starvation/underweight BMI. Anything above that, in my opinion, is not considered skinny but rather lean. The two are not interchangeable. Many people in the comments seem to confuse the concept of "lean" with "skinny". This post is specifically about men who are underweight, which in my opinion, is just as bad as being overweight.<br><br>Also, to address some people who have been saying "but what about skinny shaming?". I just want to say, I'm not skinny shaming skinny men, I'm calling out those who do. I've gone through plenty of skinny shaming myself in the past, and I know how much it hurts.