My (M42) wife (F41) keeps tying my boots after I've told her to keep her hands off of them. I tried to teach her a lesson and really hurt her feelings.

Yes, you read that right. My wife has this annoying habit where after I'm done with my boots and have set them up to dry, she will undo the laces from the sole and tie them into a bow so that you can loop them over a hook. Now, I absolutely hate this. I deliberately set my boots up a certain way so that air hits both the insoles and the boot itself. Tying a knot in the laces prevents any air from entering the boot and my boots take longer to dry and the insoles get damp. <br><br>This has been a constant issue with my wife for the last 8 or so years. I've told her numerous times to stop, to the point where I would literally un-tie them as soon as I saw her do it. She just won't listen. I've gone as far as asking his her why she feels the need to do it, and she just says that she likes things organized and that the bow looks nice. I've told her that it's not her boots and that she has no business touching my things. I've gone as far as loosening the laces and deliberately scattering my boots away from the rest of my gear so she has no way of knowing that they're even mine.<br><br>Last night, I got fed up. Not because she kept tying my boots, but because she pulled my insoles out and started dusting them to make them look nice. That was it for me, and I decided I was going to teach her a lesson. <br><br>So, I waited for her to go to bed, and while she was sleeping I loosened the laces and set up my boots. Then, as she was hooking my boots over some hooks (she usually does this when we're going on a trip and needs to pack them in a bag) she noticed that the laces were loose and started to tie them. That's when I planted my feet into the boot, "accidentally" catching her fingers between the sole of the boot and the boot itself, scrunching her fingers beneath the sole. She started cursing up and down and yelping in pain, and she refused to talk to me for the rest of the night.<br><br>This morning while we were getting breakfast I asked her why she was so angry. Her fingers were red and swollen, but nothing was broken. She started yelling at me for this, and said that I had no right to hurt her and that I was a monster for doing this. I told her that she was hurt because of her own stubbornness and that if she stopped touching my shit, she wouldn't have been hurt in the first place. She called me an asshole for telling her she deserved to be hurt and told me to get out of the house for a while and not to come back until I had calmed down. <br><br>I'm not sorry. She said that she's going to go tell my mom about what happened, but to tell her what? That her mean husband caught her fingers. She's making it sound like I tortured her or something. <br><br>I'm sorry, where did I go wrong? I warned her countless times that she would get hurt if she didn't stop, and she went and hurt herself anyway. What was I supposed to do? Am I really in the wrong here?