Husband has dinner with a woman he calls his “sister”

I’ve lost my husband a few months ago to a woman he calls his sister. They’ve known each other for 30 years. I’ve met her twice and it was always weird. She spent 10 minutes in our kitchen talking with him in their native language and didn’t acknowledge my presence at all (we weren’t in a status that I had to go say hi, he introduced us and she was busy talking to him). <br><br>I asked him if she was ok, because she seemed pretty cold. He said she was just a bit socially awkward to new people but once you get to know her, she is very kind. I have never been to his home country so I had to take his word for it.<br><br>Last year, I was out of town for work. I called him to say hi and he said he wasn’t home but at a restaurant having dinner. I thought it was weird and asked who he was with. He said he met his sister (let’s call her s). I asked if everything was ok and he said yes, s just got into town and they were having dinner to catch up. He said he told me about it but I don’t remember. I found it weird that he was having dinner with a woman alone but I let it go.<br><br>Years went by and I never saw her again but lately, husband kept bringing her up and said I was being ridiculous when I said I found their dinner weird. He said they were just friends. I asked him to call me when he gets home from work so I’m sure he’s home safe and he said no. I accused him of having an affair and he was very offended. He said that I don’t trust him and I was causing a problem out of nowhere. I asked him to put our marriage first and he said I was being possessive. <br><br>Last year, I saw his text messages and assumed he was meeting s because he agreed to meet someone at a restaurant. I asked him and he said it was s again and I couldn’t go because I was too “crazy” for her to be around. I told him I wasn’t and he said no because I didn’t trust him and I would cause a scene. I cried and said I wasn’t going to fight over a woman and I left. He said I was being dramatic.<br><br>This May, he celebrated a milestone at work and I threw him a party with his colleagues. I asked him beforehand if he needed anything and he said no but during the party, he went to the parking lot to take a call and it was s again. When he came back, I asked him why she called and he said she was in town again and wanted to say hi. I said I wished she would leave us alone and he looked mad but didn’t say anything. Later he told me I don’t like it when he spends time with other women and that I was being very mean.<br><br>From then on, every time he left the house, I felt like he was cheating on me with her but anytime I brought her up, he said I was being ridiculous and I didn’t trust him. Last month, he said he was going to a meeting but wouldn’t tell me more and I screamed at him and accused him of lying and cheating. He said I needed to grow up and let go. I told him I couldn’t and I wanted a divorce. He looked shocked and said I was being dramatic again.<br><br>I’m hurt that he keeps spending time with her even though I asked him not to, multiple times. <br><br>He’s been sleeping in the couch for a month since I threw him out. I don’t know if I should give him another chance or not.