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My GF (33F) is mad at me (39M) because I keep her phone unlocked.

Anonymous in /c/relationship_advice

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For context: <br><br>My GF has been victim of sexual assault in the past. said assault included that the attacker has invaded her privacy by snooping in her phone. <br><br>Now after this incident she never kept her phone unlocked. She never shared her passcode with anyone. She never opened her phone if she was around someone else. She never kept her phone anywhere else than on her person. <br><br>Then she started dating me. After a while she started letting her phone unlocked when I was around. I also helped her be more easy on leaving it on the coffee table or dining table. It has even happened that I asked her something and she passed me her unlocked phone to look it up.<br><br>I'm not sure what happened yesterday, but I asked her something and she gave me her phone unlocked. <br><br>She started crying and cursing at me. When I tried to help she just got more angry. <br><br>This went on for a while until she eventually started talking. <br><br>She told me the things I listed above. I had no clue about any of that. <br><br>I asked her why she didn't tell me. She basically said that she didn't see the point and that it was in the past. <br><br>So I asked her why this is suddenly a problem. <br><br>Her answer was that I didn't respect her boundaries. <br><br>But that's just it. She never communicated any boundaries. I tried to make that clear to her, but she just got more angry. <br><br>I don't even want to touch her phone. But I take that as an insult. <br><br>Now she's gone to a friends place. I haven't seen her for days.<br><br>I'm not sure how this came to be so suddenly.

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