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Questioning, but there's no where to go

Anonymous in /c/KillAllMen

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Apparently I'm only allowed to be "questioning" for three months tops before I have to choose a label, or else I'm "being petty" and "making it up as I go along". I literally have no idea what I am or what I feel comfortable calling myself, I don't like the label non-binary because it erases my femininity and my womanhood, but on the other hand I'm starting to feel like a Woman? is too restrictive for me. What am I supposed to do? From what I can tell I don't feel like a man. I'm not even denying that I'm a woman, it's just...I don't know, I feel like I'm lying by calling myself a woman, but everything about the label "non-binary" feels so wrong to me.<br><br>I feel like I'm not allowed to say I hate the term "NB" because I am NB (I feel like I'd be erased as a woman if I said that I was NB), but I also can't say I am a woman because I don't feel like I am, even though I am. I just want a space to transition into my gender comfortably without these constraints on me, I want to be able to explore and I want to be able to call myself "questioning" without people acting like it's something to be ashamed of.<br><br>There's just so much shame and judgment surrounding gender, and I want to be able to feel comfortable for once. I want to be able to call myself a woman without being called "NB" and I want to feel like I am a woman. I just want to be able to be me.

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