My husband’s ex is a terrible person and I’m actually starting to hate her.

I should preface this by saying I’m not the type of person you’ll often hear badmouthing others. I’m not, however, going to paint my husband’s ex, Kelly, in a good light.<br><br>Kelly and my husband were married for ten years. They had a toddler and baby together. Kelly was a stay at home mom and my husband worked his ass off to provide for this family. <br><br>Five years ago, Kelly cheated on my husband. She was caught in the act when my husband came home from work early. She begged him to stay and was able to convince him to, only for her to cheat again a year later. This time my husband left and filed for divorce. <br><br>Over the last five years, my husband has spent hundreds of thousands of dollars in child support and lawyers fees as Kelly has dragged both kids through an ugly divorce. Kelly’s behavior has been atrocious, and I’ll try to list as much as I can off the top of my head:<br>- Kelly has repeatedly expressed a desire to take both kids away from my husband and has said it should be that her children see neither parents happily married to anyone but each other. She has said that she wants my husband to be miserable. <br><br>- Kelly has said she’ll happily force the kids to grow up with younger step siblings should she remarry and become pregnant. <br><br>- Kelly refused to allow the kids to meet me for a year, saying that she needed time. In that time she posted photos with her new boyfriend on social media, despite the kids being aware of the account and actively following it. <br><br>- When she did allow the kids to meet me, she had a meltdown just days before I was to meet them, insisting that I was a monster. She said that she’d send videos of the meltdown to the kids and my husband if I didn’t agree to never seeing them. I ignored her and the kids were introduced to me. She did end up sending the videos to the children. <br><br>- Kelly convinced the kids that my husband was abusive to her and the kids. He isn’t. I’ve witnessed him interact with the kids and he’s never raised a hand or his voice. He’s also never been abusive towards me. <br><br>- The kids both hate me, and have since meeting me. My stepdaughter is kind of meh, but my stepson is horrible. He told me he’ll never like me and I’ll never be his mother (which I’ve never tried to be). He’s also said he has been coached by his mother on what to say to me and has repeated lines from memory. <br><br>- Kelly has emptied the family account, leaving my husband essentially bankrupt. This is the same account that was meant to pay for the children’s college tuition. <br><br>- Kelly has kept the wedding ring my husband proposed to her with, as well as thousands of dollars worth of designer goods. <br><br>- Kelly has refused to allow the kids to have any photos of themselves with me, and so they have none. She has also refused to allow the kids to speak to me on the phone or have any messages. <br><br>- Kelly has insisted that I’m not allowed to attend the kids school events, and has told parents and teachers not to interact with me. This has been respected and I’ve never been allowed to attend. <br><br>- Kelly has said that our marriage is invalid as she’s still married to my husband in gods eyes. <br><br>- Kelly said that if I get pregnant she’ll happily move to where we are so the kids can see their father. <br><br>- Kelly has insisted that she’s a good person despite the fact she cheated, despite the fact she’s dragged her kids through an ugly divorce, despite everything she’s done. <br><br>Ok so now to the point I’m actually here for. My husband and I bought a new house over a year ago. It’s a big house with a really beautiful, big garden on a quiet, green street. We moved here as the house is in an area with fantastic schools, plenty of outdoor activities for the kids, and is overall just a really great place for a young family. <br><br>Kelly has just announced that she’s moving to our neighborhood. She will be just a few houses away from us. <br><br>When she announced this, which was over a month ago, I got a call from one of the moms from the kids school. She said Kelly had told her she was moving to our street and had warned the other parents not to interact with me. <br><br>I’ve seen Kelly twice since the announcement. The first time was when she was with a guy I assume was her boyfriend. He was carrying boxes into her house while she walked the dog. She refused to look at me. <br><br>The second time was when I was walking the dogs. Kelly was stood in the driveway of her new house and was talking to a couple of guys (one was the guy I saw with her previously). She smiled at me and said “hi”. <br><br>Hearing that Kelly had moved here I started to dread the possibility of seeing her around. That dread has turned to hatred. The first time I saw her all I wanted to do was kick the bitch. <br><br>I remarked to my husband that I’ve never felt that way about another person before. I said that I’d never felt any ill will towards her. That I’d always wanted her to be happy. <br><br>He laughed and said she isn’t a good person and that anyone would feel that way towards someone doing what she is. <br><br>Seeing her for the second time just made matters worse. I feel like she goaded me. I feel like she goaded me by talking to those guys, by smiling at me. I feel like she wants to tell me something and I don’t know what. <br><br>I hate her so much. <br><br>Edit: Holy smokes this blew up. Thank you so much for the rewards. Honestly, I’d never heard of them until now. <br><br>Also, wow. I guess I needed to vent. Thank you for hearing me out.