I hate to break it to you but the majority of people our age are having kids now or within the next 2-3 years

I’m 27M and my wife is 26F. We’ve been together for 8 years. For the last 5 years we’ve had our friends and family call us the “perfect couple to have kids”. Every party we go to, or every time we meet someone new and they find out how long we’ve been together the first thing they say is “now it’s time for kids.” <br><br>Well guess what? We don’t want kids. Fuck, I hate kids. I can’t stand them and I don’t want to be around them. The thought of having to raise one makes me sick. The thought of having to financially support one, emotionally support one, and spend time with one is everything I don’t want out of life. But everyone PERSISTED. They all said “you’ll change your mind” or “you just don’t realize it yet” and even went as far as to say we are both scared of having children. That is 100% not true. We just don’t want kids.<br><br>Guess what? Within the last 18 months out of 5 groups of our closest friends who were also childfree, 3 couples now have kids and the other 2 are pregnant. That’s 5 couples who for the last 8 years said they didn’t want kids. 8 years of “I never want to have kids” has turned into “hey, you know what? I guess this is the next logical step in life.”<br><br>I brought this up to my wife tonight and said “wow, remember all of our friends who said they didn’t want kids? Well now they all have one.” She said “yeah, it’s time to start thinking about having kids now.”<br><br>I said no. Absolutely not. I said “I thought we’ve always agreed we didn’t want kids?” But she just said “everyone changes their minds and decides to have kids eventually. Why would we be any different?”<br><br>We’re not different. She’s right. I’m a loser stupidly holding on to the idea that we won’t have kids one day. I’ve always thought she was the type of person who didn’t want kids but now she’s slowly letting it sink in that she does. Fuck. <br><br>Honestly this makes me sick to my stomach. I am so nervous and I don’t know what to say or do. I don’t even know this woman anymore. How could someone go from not wanting kids for 8 years to saying they want them now? It makes no sense to me. But hey, when you’re 27 and married as long as we’ve been, I guess this is just part of life. I lost. I’m going to become a father and I don’t want to be.