Partner (F29) keeps (37M) in the friend zone, even when we do everything together

Hard one for Chambers, I'm not sure which Sub would be best for this so I put it here. Also, for the purposes of simplicity when I refer to myself, I will use he/him pronouns even though I am NB (they/them).<br><br>My partner and I have been together for 4 years and living together for 2.5. In that time frame, they have kept me in the "friend zone" even though we do everything together.<br><br>I have literally almost begged my partner to get intimate with me. I've written love letters, left her flowers, even asked her to open a joint bank account with me - all of it for naught. They refuse to kiss me or hug me, even in public. If it wasn't for the fact that we live together, I'd question if they loved me at all. <br><br>To further complicate things, my partner has basically given up on sex. They claim they have lack of desire but I think it's something more psychologically. Even when we first started dating, sex was always awkward and if we did do it, it was a quick "wham, bam, thank you ma'am" from their end. I've tried everything to get them in the mood, from sending them nudes to buying them flowers; nothing seems to work. <br><br>To further complicate things, they have basically "friendzoned" me - even when we do everything together. We have sex (rarely) but there's no kissing or hugging from them. They refuse to call me "love" or any term of endearment even though I literally write them love letters. I have almost begged to be treated like a partner instead of a buddy but they have said no. <br><br>This has really hurt my feelings. I've literally almost begged them to treat me like a partner and not just a friend and they have refused. I don't want to end the relationship but how can I when I've tried everything? I'm really at a loss for what to do. <br><br>&#x200B;<br><br>TLDR: My partner will do everything with me but treats me like a friend. Literally almost begged them to treat me like their "lover" but they refuse. Not sure what to do, especially as I don't want to end the relationship.<br><br>&#x200B;<br><br>EDIT: I apologize for not responding to comments. I've literally cried after reading most of them. It's clear that there is a major problem and, as much as it hurts to say, it's time to move on. I'll still keep it in mind that things could always get better but the writing is on the wall here.