AITA for saying my wife can’t go out in public with her underwear showing, and that she needs to dress more appropriately?

My wife “Lola” (32F) and I (39M) have been together for almost 8 years. She’s a really cool, genuine, awesome person who’s honestly like my best friend, and I really can’t imagine my life without her. We have two boys, ages 4 and 2. <br><br>So here’s the conflict: <br><br>Lola isn’t much of a morning person, and she sleeps in a bit later than I do. I’m an early riser, and wake up at 6am, make some coffee, take the boys downstairs for breakfast, and then take them to school. So I’m usually running around like a chicken with it’s head cut off, which is fine. <br><br>Now, I don’t know if it’s something I did, or if it’s just a phase, but ever since covid, Lola has just been… lazier, I guess. She’s been wearing the same pair of pajamas she wears to bed all day, every day, until 4pm, sometimes later. She’s also started leaving the house in these pajamas, which frankly, are more like underwear. Like, I can see her entire ass when she walks, I can see her entire cleavage, it’s just….a little too much, you know? And I don’t want our boys growing up with the idea that it’s okay to leave the house dressed like that. <br><br>Today was the straw that broke the camels back, though. So, she took the boys to a kids play place (we call them play centers), like one of those places with the ball pits, etc. She took our 2 year old to the play center, which is fine, no problem. <br><br>The problem was when she came home and started talking about how all the dads were looking at her, and how they were flirting with her. She wasn’t saying it in a “these dudes are weird” kind of way, she was saying it in a “I think I might be interested in these guys” kind of way. <br><br>I asked her what she was wearing, and she described what she was wearing: essentially, a pair of thin, see through sleep shorts, and a thin white T shirt with no bra. So, I asked her why she thought it was okay to go out like that. <br><br>She just looked at me like I was crazy, said that there was nothing wrong with what she was wearing and that I couldn’t tell her what to wear. So, I said, “Okay, fine. But if you want to go out in your underwear, then you need to understand that you’re going to get treated like you’re out in your underwear.” <br><br>Then she told me that I was being controlling and abusive. <br><br>Was I?